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Are you bullied? How do you deal with it?

No I think it’s more the discipline side (and sort of parenting on a mass scale )of thing ,so that they can identify you (in the school grounds or near the school grounds ),because the comprehensive schools have a large amount of pupils compared to the primary school ,that divide them into houses ,the classes are exactly the same as your classes and just so we understand !we all don’t just go into twee! little houses ! you can be visually identified by a piece of thick ribbon (different colour each house )that’s sewed onto a top pocket.

So, just to make sure I understand. There are typical classes with your peers (do I understand well that they are divided by subject, so Maths, English, Art etc. - are there classes like Maths Class A or something?) that you have every day that can change depending on the timetable (do classes and students in the classes changed throughout the academic year?) but throughout the whole education in that specific school, you are counted as part of a house. Your classes can be with students of different houses and you can see the difference between houses by wearing some visual sign like a coloured ribbon.

But then... what's really the point of houses?
 
Only Isadora would know if this kind of thing might be possible at her particular school.

But yes, agree with you in principle.

Except I went to a private school and did get moved around by well-intentioned teachers, and then the bullies singled me out for the special treatment I'd received, and bullied me for that very reason...
The private school I went to wasn’t like Uppington or Eton ,if bullying was discovered it was dealt with ,you were expelled ,it was nipped in the bud very quickly
 
Only Isadora would know if this kind of thing might be possible at her particular school.

But yes, agree with you in principle.

Except I went to a private school and did get moved around by well-intentioned teachers, and then the bullies singled me out for the special treatment I'd received, and bullied me for that very reason...

Mine lost interest after I moved classes and those that still bothered me had much less time to do it. I suppose it depends on the particular 'rat species' of the bully.

@Isadora , it highly depends on your school. Please check the rules and policies of the place. Maybe we'll be able to find a solution to that nasty business.
 
Wait, houses? British call their classes 'houses'? Is this where Hogwarts houses came from? That's... kind of surreal. Do they have names too? Like 'House of Roses' or something? Huh.
No, a class is a class, except if you're my age it's probably a form or a set. A house is a house, with a silly name, a bit like Hogwarts except your house doesn't dictate what class or form or set you're in. There is supposed to be some pastoral element to the house system, plus it is supposed to generate some friendly rivalry between kids in different houses so they can play sports against one another, within the school, as well as against other schools, and they can vie with other houses to accrue house points (except I hated sports and didn't care two hoots about which house got most points and my housemaster was a weirdo, so it was all kind of wasted on me...).

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So, just to make sure I understand. There are typical classes with your peers (do I understand well that they are divided by subject, so Maths, English, Art etc. - are there classes like Maths Class A or something?) that you have every day that can change depending on the timetable (do classes and students in the classes changed throughout the academic year?) but throughout the whole education in that specific school, you are counted as part of a house. Your classes can be with students of different houses and you can see the difference between houses by wearing some visual sign like a coloured ribbon.

But then... what's really the point of houses?
no each house had smaller groups that had classes together, exactly the same class as yours ,so everybody from my house was in an English class or maths, you just socialised with people from other houses in the break time,I think what they were really trying to do was make it seamless from you being in the primary school,So they put as many as they could from one primary school class into one house it depended obviously on how many they had from other primary schools.
The difference from Hogwarts is firstly you don’t pay an eyewatering fee to be educated and and Hogwarts is probably a boarding school, comprehensives are always day schools.
 
No, a class is a class, except if you're my age it's probably a form or a set. A house is a house, with a silly name, a bit like Hogwarts except your house doesn't dictate what class or form or set you're in. There is supposed to be some pastoral element to the house system, plus it is supposed to generate some friendly rivalry between kids in different houses so they can play sports against one another, within the school, as well as against other schools, and they can vie with other houses to accrue house points (except I hated sports and didn't care two hoots about which house got most points and my housemaster was a weirdo, so it was all kind of wasted on me...).

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Haha, apologies ;).

I suppose it's quite interesting, although, with the practical way of thinking of my countrymen, that would be completely wasted on us! We just had classes for the whole time we spent at the school - so with three years in Class A you would be in Class 1A, then Class 2A, then Class 3A. Your peers would be the same for the whole time unless there were optional classes like Russian or German (or other foreign languages, types of arts, music etc.) where you would attend with people from all classes of your year. At the end of the year, there would be a school-wide meeting where the best class of each year was chosen, then the best individual students.

My class was always the worst concerning behaviour :p. One of the reasons I was happy to change it.
 
No, a class is a class, except if you're my age it's probably a form or a set. A house is a house, with a silly name, a bit like Hogwarts except your house doesn't dictate what class or form or set you're in. There is supposed to be some pastoral element to the house system, plus it is supposed to generate some friendly rivalry between kids in different houses so they can play sports against one another, within the school, as well as against other schools, and they can vie with other houses to accrue house points (except I hated sports and didn't care two hoots about which house got most points and my housemaster was a weirdo, so it was all kind of wasted on me...).

Replies are actually coming in faster than I can think, or type...!
Imagine having hypermobility syndrome which affects your hands and wrists and arthritis and your damn iPad doesn’t understand your accent and the iPad now for some reason likes to repeat what you have dictated so you’re have to keep deleting it.
 
no each house had smaller groups that had classes together, exactly the same class as yours ,so everybody from my house was in an English class or maths, you just socialised with people from other houses in the break time,I think what they were really trying to do was make it seamless from you being in the primary school,So they put as many as they could from one primary school class into one house it depended obviously on how many they had from other primary schools.
The difference from Hogwarts is firstly you don’t pay an eyewatering fee to be educated and and Hogwarts is probably a boarding school, comprehensives are always day schools.

Not to offend the British education system, but I see little point in the creation of houses, to be honest.

But I understand it better now, so thank you for patience in explaining it to me.

Apologies for hijacking your thread for a cultural lesson @Isadora ;)
 
I’m interested when did you teach?:)
I wonder if Isadora had any notion of the avalanche of trans-Atlantic queries she was about to unleash? Hope she's still with us, somewhere!

Intermittently, what with the Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and the severe depression and everything, I taught from the 1990s until about 15 years ago when my psychotherapist & my doctor finally persuaded me I was only making myself ill and making more work for them. Trained in two Comps, and later taught for money in one Comp. Don't remember any of those three Comps having houses, but could be wrong. Taught for money in three private schools, all of which had houses, as did the two private schools I attended myself.

In the private system you were in a house throughout your career in that school. You were in a different form each year, e.g. Lower Fourth, Upper Sixth, whatever. Or sometimes IVT, VF, etc., where IV or V denoted your year-group and T or F was the first letter of the form-master's surname. Then, within your year-group, but across all the forms and all the houses, you were in sets for different subjects (Set 1, Set 2, Set 3 etc.), usually but not always according to ability. Sometimes your own form would take some subjects as a form, rather than in sets. But never by houses, in my own experience.

Approximately 26,000 more posts have happened while I was typing this. Apologies for being slow and out of synch...
 
Not to offend the British education system, but I see little point in the creation of houses, to be honest.
probably just depends on if you like it or not being autistic as I am I have to say it’s not completely the British education system part of the British education system is homeschooling,There are also very small units to teach people who are learning disabled or very antisocial ,I think the US has the equivalent .
 
I wonder if Isadora had any notion of the avalanche of trans-Atlantic queries she was about to unleash? Hope she's still with us, somewhere!

Intermittently, what with the Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and the severe depression and everything, I taught from the 1990s until about 15 years ago when my psychotherapist & my doctor finally persuaded me I was only making myself ill and making more work for them. Trained in two Comps, and later taught for money in one Comp. Don't remember any of those three Comps having houses, but could be wrong. Taught for money in three private schools, all of which had houses, as did the two private schools I attended myself.

In the private system you were in a house throughout your career in that school. You were in a different form each year, e.g. Lower Fourth, Upper Sixth, whatever. Or sometimes IVT, VF, etc., where IV or V denoted your year-group and T or F was the first letter of the form-master's surname. Then, within your year-group, but across all the forms and all the houses, you were in sets for different subjects (Set 1, Set 2, Set 3 etc.), usually but not always according to ability. Sometimes your own form would take some subjects as a form, rather than in sets. But never by houses, in my own experience.

Approximately 26,000 more posts have happened while I was typing this. Apologies for being slow and out of synch...
I went to a very small private school so we just had classes for physical age and ability.

I understand the forms, I just don’t like talking about the school ,it was about one of the worst times of my life.
 
The difference from Hogwarts is firstly you don’t pay an eyewatering fee to be educated and and Hogwarts is probably a boarding school, comprehensives are always day schools.
Hogwarts is definitely a boarding school, except I've never heard of a boarding school where you had the same dormitory for your whole time there like Harry Potter did: so J. K. Rowling may have slipped up in her research there!

My family only had to pay a tiny pittance towards the school fees because I was awarded something called a "scholarship", which in plain English is a discount for pupils deemed likely to perform so well that they reflect credit on the school and thus kind of become advertising for the school, as a commercial enterprise. In my case the second school's investment was largely wasted: the first school was able to claim credit for the fact I got a scholarship to the second school, so that worked, but the second school has never yet been able to claim any credit for anything I've done or am ever likely to do.

All of which will be of probably not much consolation to Isadora, sorry poppet.
 
don’t like talking about the school, it was about one of the worst times of my life.
Yeah, this is fundamentally why we actually came to this thread, isn't it? Because we'd been somewhere more or less similar to the place Isadora is in right now. And good luck with that, Isadora: we're all rooting for you, even if we went through different school systems!
 
Hogwarts is definitely a boarding school, except I've never heard of a boarding school where you had the same dormitory for your whole time there like Harry Potter did: so J. K. Rowling may have slipped up in her research there!

My family only had to pay a tiny pittance towards the school fees because I was awarded something called a "scholarship", which in plain English is a discount for pupils deemed likely to perform so well that they reflect credit on the school and thus kind of become advertising for the school, as a commercial enterprise. In my case the second school's investment was largely wasted: the first school was able to claim credit for the fact I got a scholarship to the second school, so that worked, but the second school has never yet been able to claim any credit for anything I've done or am ever likely to do.

All of which will be of probably not much consolation to Isadora, sorry poppet.
Had no interest in Harry Potter wouldn’t know anything about it .I just heard people talk about it , thankfully the fees my mother paid ,didn’t give me heart failure .
 
Sorry, yes, I can see you do understand the forms; I think the later bits of my reply there were directed more widely. Not doing a very good job of keeping up with the inrush of replies!
i’d be amazed if she wanted to keep reading what we were talking about, it traumatised me and I left school 30 years ago.
 
i’d be amazed if she wanted to keep reading what we were talking about, it traumatised me and I left school 30 years ago.
Maybe Isadora will be aware how addicted to whimsical sidetracks some of us with Asperger's can be!?

Anyway the whole of the first page is both on topic and supportive. So hopefully Isadora will know she can come here and start a thread and get some meaningful responses.

Good luck Isadora.
 
I'm so sorry you have to go through all of this Isadora. It's really not fair and it hurts. I can't give any advice better than the people in this thread who are helping but I can say I'm cheering for you! You seem like such a thoughtful and interesting person and once school is finished (and it will come sooner than you expect!) you'll be free to enjoy the rest of your life.

I wasn't bullied per se, but my school experience was still a horrible thing for me in other ways. Life after school is so much greater with what you can do with your time so I just hope that you hang onto yourself through this. Keep being you, don't ever let someone else convince you that who you are is wrong because you'll be living your whole life with yourself and the truer you are to yourself, the better off you'll be in the long run.
 
Good evening (I'm in the UK). Wow! I did not expect to come back to so many messages. I have read through each and every one of your messages and I want to thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your kindness and support. It is just lovely and has brought me to tears. Thank you all for being here for me.

There are so many messages that I am afraid I cannot respond to each one personally but I hope you realise how much all your responses mean to me.

To be honest I enjoyed reading through all the replies. I never realised how different our schools all are. Many of your schools sound much more interesting than mine, what with their houses, mine has blocks such as Block A and Block F. Each year is assigned to a certain block but during the day our lessons take us to different blocks. But we always start and end the day in our year block. I wish my school had houses though. I think that would be far more interesting.

Unfortunately I am unable to change blocks because it is based on our years but switching classes is definitely something I can ask about after half term has ended. I know that it is possible because a boy in my class switched his classes as he is no longer in my art class or science class. I wish I had thought of this ages ago, thank you all so much. I hope I can switch them.

Thank you all for sharing your experiences with me. You have all helped me so much already and for the first time in ages I am feeling positive.
I am very sorry that some of you were also bullied at school. I hope it was not too bad and that you still managed to enjoy yourselves despite the nastiness.

And lastly I would like to apologise for my very late reply to your messages. I spent today and this evening with my mum. She was in great spirits today, full of so much energy and laughter. We spoke all day and she told me about her life when she was my age and then we looked through old pictures and did some baking together.

So it has been a wonderful day for us both. I hope you have all had lovely days, and I would like to thank you all from the bottom of my heart again because you really have looked out for me today and have been the first friends I have ever had.

Isadora xx
 

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