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Are you as shy as I once was?

Perkinsj88

Perkinsj88

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I was driven to post something on facebook.com. Perhaps it can help you overcome your shyness as well. Don't hide yourself anymore! I don't think the shyness was ever part of what ASD is, it was merely another way to cope with how everyone saw me.

"Many people may have noted a change in how I act since finding myself to have Asperger's Syndrome. Well, I have changed, I no longer make attempts to suppress who I am. I show my differences with pride, you may not always understand why I say certain things or exhibit certain behavior but this is who I am and have been all along. I never wanted to be shy...I needed to be shy because I didn't understand. I am no longer ashamed of my differences, In fact, I take pride in my differences now. I can't help that when I get excited I sometimes repeat the same things over and over without knowing I am doing it or perhaps I blurt out something that is meaningless to you. It's just who I am, the world needs to get used to it because I'm not going away any time soon, nor will I hide myself from the world, for the first time ever I'm presenting myself with truth. HELLO WORRRLLD!! You can find your own ways of dealing with it, how you handle it is your problem now...not mine :)."
 
Kudo's to you for being brave and having the strength and courage to not only share this with us but with Facebook as well!! I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who want's to "come out" about this, but it has to happen on my own terms and I'm just not ready for that (and my boyfriend hasn't helped much; if that's how ALL the NT's are going to react to my Aspielation I don't want to tell anybody! >_<) I also like the different perspective on shyness, and now realize that it may be part of the reason why I'm shy. So thank you for the new perspective! And don't let the world tear you down :)
 
That was a good message, not too aggressive nor submissive. It's not easy to say something is not problem of "mine", as so many things and other's behavior will reflect back at you. But it might be true that others are responsible of their reactions as there's nothing we can do about them.
I've always told I'm shy, but I really condone that statement apparently for same reasons as you do. Either way, it's easy way to inform NT's so that they'll get even some hold on the issue as it otherwise would need too much explaining. Sometimes I wonder if everyone just needs to know anything about my inner world. Maybe knowing more won't change their style of observation. I'll continue using that word I guess. Hopefully it's not the reason there'll be more misunderstandings for me to face in the future.
 
I am no longer afraid of what people can do to me, since I am grown, independent, have some self-defense skills and can recognize manipulating behavior better than when I was a child. No will ever be able to lock me in a room with half a dozen bullies and the rest passive and dishonest onlookers.

So no, I am not shy anymore.
 
Ylva said:
I am no longer afraid of what people can do to me, since I am grown, independent, have some self-defense skills and can recognize manipulating behavior better than when I was a child. No will ever be able to lock me in a room with half a dozen bullies and the rest passive and dishonest onlookers.

So no, I am not shy anymore.
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Very good view point. I think I was always more of afraid of what others could make me do to myself =).

Here's my attempt of putting this into a poetic statement. I decided I would title it "My Declaration of Freedom". I am not a poet in any traditional sense of the word but it was fun! =)

"I am not broken, I am different. If this should birth problems, I hereby declare that they are your problems, not mine. It is not I that is the problem, and I hereby revoke your power to present it as such. For if one individual is taught such an idea, it will become so, in the same light as those who deemed it so factually true. In this I declare my freedom; freedom to live, freedom to laugh, and freedom to love; and as such I exercise my right to choose what is ideal for me, and me alone, for I am, indeed, different.”
 
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