I am old enough now and being disabled physically too, that I would just like to live a simple life. But, I never prepared for this time of life. As long as I lived with my parents I never had to worry about being alone or always being under someone else's control. I could just be me, doing what I wanted so I wasn't prepared. Had I realised my weirdness was an actual condition (HFA), I might not have been so carefree and put some thought into what might I do to prepare for life after parents. Like taking baby steps to adjust to life in the world alone and figuring out a financial strategy so I wouldn't have to be under someone else's control due to lack of money like I am now.
Yes, at first I was elated to know why I was as I was. But, that wore off and I started realising what good is it doing me to know now? Now that I have no family, no friends and no way of supporting myself independently. And I'm still trying to find that peace of mind with just being with just myself.
I get depressed knowing I'll never be that carefree self again. Living with someone, even though they know about the autism now, I still feel obligated to act as I feel they think appropriate and the slightest put down puts me down! If my disabilities become too bad there is the possibility of assisted living. Again, under someone else's rules/controls. Doctors feel I shouldn't live alone due to my health. And having never lived alone I have no idea how that would feel or if I could do it.
I think my best bet would be if I could find that other Aspie Me as a partner. Might find some happiness together as some here have found.
Yes, at first I was elated to know why I was as I was. But, that wore off and I started realising what good is it doing me to know now? Now that I have no family, no friends and no way of supporting myself independently. And I'm still trying to find that peace of mind with just being with just myself.
I get depressed knowing I'll never be that carefree self again. Living with someone, even though they know about the autism now, I still feel obligated to act as I feel they think appropriate and the slightest put down puts me down! If my disabilities become too bad there is the possibility of assisted living. Again, under someone else's rules/controls. Doctors feel I shouldn't live alone due to my health. And having never lived alone I have no idea how that would feel or if I could do it.
I think my best bet would be if I could find that other Aspie Me as a partner. Might find some happiness together as some here have found.