I try online dating, but often times it just ends up making me depressed. I pretty much never match with anyone that I am interested in. There are a lot of women with a lot of baggage which may or may not be from their own doing. I have worked hard in other areas of my life and I don't expect perfection but I also have some standards. There is such a large mismatch in terms of the number of men far exceeding the number of women on dating sites, that it tends to result in matches that are not on equal footing. I think online dating is a tool that may be very helpful in a large city, but even then has its limitations. In a smaller city its effectiveness is low from my experience, although not impossible. It is just even harder as someone on the spectrum.
I can understand that makes things tricky. Here's an idea. Why don't you go on some dates with these "women with baggage"? Don't mislead, be absolutely open. Just say in your profile you're not looking for a relationship, you're not looking for a one nighter, you'd just love to hear people's stories, share company and share a laugh. It would be excellent practice for you and also good desensitisation from this mindset of "holy crap, gotta make this one count, last chance saloon". And it would be FUN. And don't worry if you do meet someone special that they'll think you insincere. Most women who read that in a profile will think "that's great, but you never know.... maybe he changes his mind".
But most likely you'll just meet a cast of interesting people and have a lot of good memories to look back on, whilst honing your skills on being social and relaxing too. Go date some women with "baggage"; just be safe and don't give false signals. TBH many of them will be quite happy with a fun night and aren't poor wretches desperately in need of someone to complete them, so they won't be wailing at the prospect of you not wanting something long term with "a woman with baggage".