Ok so I've been told that I "lead people on" simply by pursuing interesting conversations. I don't really know how to refuse flirting. I don't mind it sometimes, of course... but I don't want to be out breaking peoples hearts just because I don't know how to convince someone that I'm not interested in pursuing something more romantic. Sometimes I say this explicitly but still my behaviour somehow gets interpreted as flirty, and I'm cast as the mean-'ol heartbreaker. :-( boooo.
advice?
advice?