sunfloral
Active Member
Hi, I realized that a lot of the reasons why my brother (12 y/o) has been exhibiting violent tendencies has been because he has trouble not acting on his impulses. He's extremely curious and runs off a lot, many times to places where he shouldn't be (like the staff only area at restaurants, Costco, etc). He knows what is right/wrong and can be "trained/conditioned" to stop doing specific behaviors, but in the end, he only learns to stop doing those specific things because it becomes a part of his routine. I think that what would really be beneficial to him is to learn how to stop himself and think about whether or not his impulse is safe/appropriate.
I did some research and found out that he receives Applied Behavior Analysis based services. It's from my understanding that ABA is viewed by many as an unethical form of therapy. I always felt a little weird about the services he was receiving because it felt like he was being trained like a dog, but I truly didn't know what would be best for my brother and thought that ABA might be normal practice.
I'm not really familiar with the different resources/therapies/medications that might be useful for autistic children and would really appreciate some advice/thoughts on how other parents might have addressed impulse control in the past. I think that I really want to start putting the support systems in place that will help my brother become more independent.
I've reevaluated my circumstances and don't think that it'll ever be possible for me to get my parents to step up and take care of my brother. I know that when my parents get older, I'll be expected to take care of my brother in their place, and I really don't know if I can handle it anymore. I don't think my brother would like that either, and it's because of this that I'd like to move my energy from trying to change my parents to preparing my brother for a fulfilling life of his own.
Thank you.
I did some research and found out that he receives Applied Behavior Analysis based services. It's from my understanding that ABA is viewed by many as an unethical form of therapy. I always felt a little weird about the services he was receiving because it felt like he was being trained like a dog, but I truly didn't know what would be best for my brother and thought that ABA might be normal practice.
I'm not really familiar with the different resources/therapies/medications that might be useful for autistic children and would really appreciate some advice/thoughts on how other parents might have addressed impulse control in the past. I think that I really want to start putting the support systems in place that will help my brother become more independent.
I've reevaluated my circumstances and don't think that it'll ever be possible for me to get my parents to step up and take care of my brother. I know that when my parents get older, I'll be expected to take care of my brother in their place, and I really don't know if I can handle it anymore. I don't think my brother would like that either, and it's because of this that I'd like to move my energy from trying to change my parents to preparing my brother for a fulfilling life of his own.
Thank you.
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