3 year old daughter with Aspies: tantrum tips please

[liftingupmychild]

Id appreciate tips on dealing with the aspie melt downs and tantrums. She hates being "torn" away from the things she loves but of course sometimes we must go somewhere or do something else. She has a limited vocab (120 words maybe). Shes not over stimulated too terribly easy, enjoys animals and singing/music (noises don't bother her, more like intrigue her). She has a younger sister who's 18 months old so please bare that in mind when giving tips.

 

[Guppyfry]

Hi there - can't say I remember that much that far back, and certainly didn't have the cognitive/verbal abilities to have specific memories of what I was going through, so help and insight may be limited.

A few things that may help: try to give a warning that something is about to change. Maybe set up signals that indicate a change coming up.

If you know the upcoming plans for the day, let her know what it will be. Remind her of the upcoming event a few minutes before.

Try to set things up so she feels she has some control over her choices and activities.

 

[Judge]

I didn't even speak in sentences until I was well into my fourth year. Didn't have much to say back then. Odd to realize this was just another thing my mother told me shortly before she died many years later. Just another thing to help me fit the pieces of my own puzzle together regarding my own autism.

But as far as I know I wasn't a real discipline problem either. But growing up in a military family, that sort of thing wasn't allowed. Umm...not really kidding either.

 

[Mr Allen]

Most 3 year old kids are known to chuck a wobbly on a regular basis anyway, whether they're Aspies or NT.

I wouldn't worry too much.