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Tony Ramirez

Tony Ramirez

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Overmedicated Single Aspie RSD NEET 48 From Brooklyn, NY
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  • Tony Ramirez
    Hanging out with Christians is annoying because they never want to do anything, they're spiritual propaganda about why I'm single, and they segregate me from the women.
    Hanging out with non Christians is annoying because even though we mix, I have to deal with the gradual shift from G to R Rated language.
    Tony Ramirez
    CBT therapy is not working.
    I need a trauma therapist.
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    Matthias
    I think schema therapy would be a great option for you. It helps with trauma and relationship issues. Unlike CBT, a schema therapist can act like the female friend you're seeking.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I'm actually going to ask for a therapist that does trauma. All the others are useless. I bring up girls from college, Madison, Jade and women ignoring me cafe parks events present they tell me it's in the past. Forget about them love yourself crap think about things you love I can't I have to talk about them not be gaslighting brushed off.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    I like that, you shouldn't be gaslighted. Your feelings need to be validated. We all need this. At that time, you felt that these women dis you. Moving forward, l hope you realize that if we seek validation from strangers that's not healthy. Our existence is dependent on how we feel about ourselves.
    Tony Ramirez
    99% of the time if you see this face next to sitting to a woman that's not a boomer chances are she doesn't know me and won't give me the time of day or care if I dropped dead.
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    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    @Tony Ramirez please read what l wrote, and think about this. I don't spend my entire day thinking about random men or if they ignored me.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    You need to come to the realization that obessive thinking about only one thing has taken over your life. Until you can understand this, only then can you move forward.
    paloftoon
    paloftoon
    Well, so what if the woman is boomer? If the woman is a boomer and they want to give you a chance, why not?
    Even just for friendship. I would start there!
    Tony Ramirez
    I didn't put myself out there the past 6 1/2 years my ass.

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    thejuice
    No visit to JFK
    Judge
    Judge
    Putting yourself "out there" means nothing if you are repeating the same social mistakes over and over. It's about you- not them.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Nope still never got a password or Real ID USA thing.
    Tony Ramirez
    I can't have my parents as my only companions. I will go nuts. But I can't make reliable friends anywhere. Just flaky aquantances.
    tree
    tree
    Generally friends are on the same kind of emotional level.
    Tony Ramirez
    I'm losing all of the so-called friends. They are getting tired of me, even though they never hang out with me.
    tree
    tree
    @Tony Ramirez These friends getting tired of you....what do you figure is the problem?
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    Steelbookcollector217
    my mental/emotional health has been damaged a lot since my close friends of 13 years ghosted me again.
    Tony Ramirez
    I life with never get better. I am going to give you soon.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I been going out less for my mental health.
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    thejuice
    Good idea if you feel emotionally volatile! Sit and chill to some lofi
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I am. I will go to a movie then go straight home. Go to a social event place where I know I shouldn't be ignored, there is like two maybe three left then again head straight home. Otherwise, I will not try any new places or go to past ones that triggered me to insanity or even just go out to touch grass to be around a hole smoker and death stare's.
    Tony Ramirez
    I can never work or get a degree because of my meltdowns of hearing the f word.
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    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    When my daughter was in 2nd grade, l explained the swear words to her, told her not to use them. She then felt educated when little boys were swearing and she stayed quiet in class. The words had no effect on her.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I'm the only one left on this planet of humans who this bothers. I have not met a human being who this affects in person or online.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Sorry Tony, it must be a trigger word.
    Tony Ramirez
    I'm having public meltdowns even in social groups like outdoor events meeting like game nights when people use the f word too much like today I thought I was going to be arrested.
    tree
    tree
    Have you considered trying inpatient therapy?
    The level of support would be more constant.
    Tony Ramirez
    I'm losing interest in gardening volunteering work because no one gives a damn in giving me a chance in giving me any volunteer work. They just ghost me or pretend I have never been there when I show up.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I'm looking asking people and hearing crickets back.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    It took me a half year to get a job when l moved to FL. I had been a housewife for many years. Finally, l was given a chance. A lot of jobs, you start at the bottom, if they like your work ethic, they train you for better positions.
    tree
    tree
    @Tony Ramirez
    How do you ask, and who are you asking?
    Are there tasks that you could offer to do, that don't require someone's approval?
    Tony Ramirez
    I have friends and have lengthy conversations with women IRL.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Very exciting to read. Glad you moved on from your thoughts holding you back. It's difficult to do, but you will never go back.:)
    Tony Ramirez
    If I ever offended LGBT people here in the past, I apologize. Actually meeting and befriended them IRL changed my views. I am so sorry.
    Tony Ramirez
    Humans need to go extinct.
    Judge
    Judge
    Patience, Tony.


    CAP811: "The Matador....the Matador....Me! Me."
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Love the original Twilight Zone from the late 50s early 60s. Lots of episodes about humanity.
    Judge
    Judge
    The Twilight Zone was my first introduction to the real meaning of the word "irony".
    Tony Ramirez
    I have no friends. Never had them. Can't make friends because of my autism.
    FayetheADHDsquirrel
    FayetheADHDsquirrel
    I'm sorry. There are actually a lot of us on here who don't have friends. That is why we try to encourage you to find hobbies you can enjoy alone or with a pet. Then if you later find a friend, that will be an extra blessing.
    FayetheADHDsquirrel
    FayetheADHDsquirrel
    I thought you had found some friends recently though.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Can't do hobbies alone when I see friend groups and couples hanging out everywhere. Then my parents put me down.

    Those friends backstabber me.
    Tony Ramirez
    My life sucks. I can't improve it. I tried.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Can you try to be happy with what you do have? When l get down about something, then l try to be grateful for what l do have. 800 people are on the list for affordable housing in my city, and that was just one apartment complex. When l left Los Angeles, l was shocked at the amount of those just surviving on the sidewalk, or under the freeway underpass, or one guy who slept in his truck on my block.
    Tony Ramirez
    It's going to be approaching 6 1/2 years now, I wasted my life putting myself out there.

    Still no real friends just acquaintances, no girlfriend, hell still not even a platonic female friend, uneducated, unemployed and still living with my parents.
    Tony Ramirez
    I hate the word friend. Don't put boy or girl next to it. I'll piss in your face.
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    thejuice
    Have you ever tried writing your feelings of frustration out but not clicking send? @Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I will record them to my self
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    thejuice
    Like dictation? that's a fantastic idea. If you want, you might consider deleting it once youve listened back. Validate your frustration in the moment, and then delete it. It means you won't drown yourself in a powerful wash of inescapable negativity, which is what happens with public forum outbursts here. Youre plunging downwards, but you need not tie weights to your ankles.
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