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Zain

Zain

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  • Zain
    Is there anyone here with 120+ IQ on here? How many outcomes can you process at one time?
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    Outdated
    Quite a few of us have an IQ of much higher than 120. Your second question lacks any context an doesn't make sense.
    Zain
    Zain
    @Outdated Like, when you're presented with a problem and you want to get to a solution and there are multiple solutions available, are you able to process multiple pathways to multiple solutions at once? Or do you go from one to another? Sort of like creating and following multiple flowcharts at once. You'd have to be able to predict and take into account the necessary variables too
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    Outdated
    To me it is all fluid. Not pathways but scales of probability that to a lot of people could look a bit like weather forecasts. I have no idea how much I can do at once because it always seemed that the busier I am the better I can perform. I used to be a Production Manager for print companies and it was something I excelled at.
    Zain
    I think my piano tutor ghosted me. Lol. Can’t help but laugh at things like this now. People can’t bear to be with me for an hour a week whilst being paid to.
    Raggamuffin
    Raggamuffin
    Think of it as a reflection on them as a person, and don't twist it into an attack on yourself. But give it time, there might be a genuine reason for their lack of response. If not, and they continue to ghost you; then it's unprofessional, and you deserve better in a tutor.
    Zain
    I played football again with my workmates. That connection I felt with them by bonding through an activity is something I cannot get from normal conversation. I feel that that is what is normal. It makes me think of my place and the effect I have in normal conversation.
    Zain
    Zain
    It'd be like being that one player on the pitch that does not display any passion, excitement or joy whilst playing, not cooperating or playing with the team. Or playing with a different strategy in mind and causing disorder. It's jarring.
    Zain
    Seeing a room full of women waiting for the arrival of Luigi Mangione is very jarring.
    Zain
    IKEA is such a cosy place to be. Nice to see families and optimistic-looking younger aged couples shopping to improve their homes. I hope I can have that one day. If all else fails, I hope I can at least do couple things with an AI partner in 10-15 years. That is a huge thing that is keeping me motivated.
    Zain
    Zain
    I'd be close to forty by then. I can live until 100 if I am smart and stay healthy. I can then technically live most of my life with a partner. It's all I want.
    MildredHubble
    MildredHubble
    The first time I went to IKEA it was like a baffling ordeal for me. I had no idea how it worked. I figured it out eventually. Now when I go to IKEA I walk straight in through the exit and I don't bother with the labyrinthium show room area lol!
    oregano
    oregano
    I have several small furniture items in my home from IKEA. I liked that they came unassembled which made them easy to transport from Sacramento to Jefferson. Also, they fit in the odd nooks of my home just fine. I also like some of the little houseware items they have, like clocks. I use a pair of pot holders from there.
    Zain
    I played football with some workmates yesterday.
    FayetheADHDsquirrel
    FayetheADHDsquirrel
    It sounds like you had fun.
    Zain
    Zain
    @FayetheAspie I did. I actually ended up losing track of time and played for 3 hours. My knees and feet didn't like that very much.. it's been a painful recovery for two days. :D
    Zain
    I'm going to spend the next six months learning the piano. Perhaps I can win a women's love with music. I'm completely willing to spend lots of time and money on this. I even bought an expensive new keyboard already.
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    Trophonius
    Trophonius
    I play piano and the pieces you get to play within that time period are fairly basic. Also, I haven't got any love for it.
    Don't spend "lots of time and money". A teacher and 1 hour of daily practice should be enough, more than that it's unlikely to be of much more benefit.
    Zain
    Zain
    @Trophonius How many hours of tutoring do you think I should get a week in addition to 1 hour of daily practice?

    Also, I know it’s not certain but it will likely help.
    Trophonius
    Trophonius
    1-hour lesson a week should be enough.
    Zain
    Why do people say things like "seek professional help" when the other person is likely just as much as messed up as I am? So condescending. It should be more common to say "continue, just learn from your mistakes". Isn't that what the other person has done to get where they are? Experience is the best teacher.
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    Zain
    Zain
    @thejuice Yup. I saw the most condescending post on Friday. It was appropriately vague so that users had to guess whether it was about them or not and example posts weren't provided. Of course, the thread is visible so that others can see their virtue signalling, attacks and crude display of superiority but the comments are blocked so that no one with an opposing view can respond. I wonder why.
    Zain
    Zain
    @thejuice Of course, that post relates to the desire to control others' lives and what they can say, thinking they know what is best for others. It is sickening, especially because this is a platform that has a lot of vulnerable people.
    Zain
    Zain
    Then again, it is difficult to respond to something so vague. It's clear the post was for the person's own ego and probably made in a state of emotion.
    Zain
    My day at work was much better. I interacted with those people in my other post amicably. They initiated in a friendly manner first, and we had a great back and forth. It seems I misinterpreted what happened yesterday. I also worked with a few other nice people. I was good in conversation. My biggest weakness I need to fix is initiation. I cannot read and understand the context surrounding this.
    Zain
    Zain
    I think I have a crush on a girl there. Whenever I see her, I naturally just can't help but smile, laugh and look downwards bashfully. The nice thing is, she does the same. I acted quite cold to her in the final hour yesterday after that interaction in my last post. I want to fix that. She was working elsewhere today.
    Zain
    I also wish that we had a place for outcasts and rejects that is considered 'noble' or 'virtuous' like the night's watch.
    Zain
    I've been at work for 2 months now. All the people I befriended/allied with have gone. They are keeping me on because I'm a hard worker.
    Also, I think I was getting made fun of by people of my own ethnicity. Even worse, it was in the native language. You are the worst if you talk in a foreign language around someone who does not understand it whilst laughing at that person.
    Zain
    Conversation feels so superfluous nowadays. It's been years since I've had a fun, enjoyable conversation with someone. Acting like an idiot and not thinking what I say through, using whatever language I feel like, not being as 'efficient' as possible with my words. I feel like having fun is inefficient, if that makes sense.
    Zain
    Zain
    I'm too scared to let loose as there's a high chance I'll regress like I usually do. I can't judge whether this progression or regression.
    Zain
    It sucks being 5'9.
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    Crossbreed
    Crossbreed
    So I won't derail the other thread, your pheromones will upstage your visual features every time (and hers, too).
    Zain
    Zain
    @Crossbreed I don't know anything about human pheromones. I will say that another girl I liked had a certain smell that made me want to be around her. Does that relate?
    Crossbreed
    Crossbreed
    Yes, but you can't always "smell" them. Sometimes you will have a strong attraction and not know why.
    Some women will have the same kind of attraction to you.
    It is absent when all you have is a photograph or an avatar.
    Zain
    Mutual respect is essential to a healthy, strong and good relationship. A lot of us here are friendless and alone. Would you say a lack of respect for others often on your side is one reason for this?
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    Zain
    Zain
    @thejuice That's exactly what I'm talking about. You are meant to feel tired after eating garbage because of how bad junk food is for you. It takes longer to digest. It negatively affects the body's chemistry. Now, imagine someone has been eating such trash for long periods.. their entire life? How can that person be healthy? They will be awful mentally as the body affects the mind, etc.
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    thejuice
    I don't know how they can do it, maybe you get used to it?
    Zain
    Zain
    @thejuice There is no getting used to it. A lion won't be happy being fed anything but meat, nor will he be happy when is not out in the wild fulfilling his natural desires in a natural environment. Humans are just animals.
    Zain
    I may be coming across as 'cold' to people unintentionally. I feel it is kind of inefficient to use energy on others when I could be thinking of something else or relaxing my mind. Does anyone have any thoughts or tips to share here? If I was talking to a beautiful person, I'd be very energetic around them. I feel as though this is natural behaviour.
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    TBRS1
    TBRS1
    Example: A person showing you family photos is expressing joy/pride. They are doing this because they are extending a social invitation to you share in their joy.

    This is very kind of them.
    Zain
    Zain
    @TBRS1 I see.
    What about formal conversations? Is it worth it to take emotion into account over reason? Like trying to inject humour into a response even if you don't detect joy in their speech? Like when speaking to a manager, it can be hard/impossible to detect a feeling when things don't feel personal.
    Hopefully you know what I mean.
    TBRS1
    TBRS1
    Talking to a manager is about conveying information.

    Emotional content is pleasant/polite, with an undercurrent of subservience.

    Listen, respond politely. Inserting humor (as opposed to polite responses) is going off topic and likely to be viewed as "silly" or "distracting" by somebody expecting to convey clear data.
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