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Recent content by Phanelope

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    People don't believe me when I tell them I'm Autistic. Thoughts?

    Yeah. I was just st told yesterday I can’t have autism because I have my life together. I don’t even have my life together. Yes, I have two degrees, but I don’t have a job from it (or any job) yes I’m married, but only because my husband is extremely patient and can put up with me not wanting to...
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    What do the ASD levels mean?

    I was diagnosed with level 1, which as an adult, won’t qualify me for any support. So looks like I may be forced to depend upon my husband for my survival forever.
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    ASDers, do you fake eye contact or not?

    I don’t fake it. Meaning I look at their eyes rather than another point on their face. But I can’t make eye contact when I speak. Trying to focus on words AND non verbal communication is way too hard.
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    Aspies and Athleticism

    Just reviving an old thread. My son is extremely athletic. He has amazing upper body strength, flexibility, dexterity etc. but he can’t do team sports or sports with rules (e.g. taekwondo). He’s the type of kid that could win ninja warrior. And despite being really good with his hands and good...
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    How was your childhood?

    I couldn’t vote for some reason. Mine was dysfunctional, violent, verbally abusive and I suspect a genetic component. As an adult/teen, I had memories of my mum beating me for no reason. As I got older I thought there must have been a reason, just I wasn’t aware of it. On my mother’s death bed...
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    Tasting colours?

    So I tried to query my son more on this. He says yellow food is oily, green food is fresh, and brown food is burnt. Is this synesthesia or is he just associating colours with textures?
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    Are you hyper?

    I have a hyperactive mind, but otherwise sedentary. Many people with ASD also have ADHD.
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    Just landed my first job

    First job was at McDonald’s. It was too much for me to think about at once plus trying to speak to customers (I had problems with fluency, speed and volume at that age) I quit. Second job was as a filing clerk. Someone accused me of putting something in the wrong file when I hadn’t touched it. I...
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    Small Talk (How much does it bother you?)

    Speaker: *tells personal story* Me:*laughs* Everyone else: awwww
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    Small Talk (How much does it bother you?)

    My psychologist said to me every time she asks autistic people she’s assessing what they think about small talk the response she gets verbatim is “I hate it. I don’t see the point.” That was also the response I gave. If you said you were bad or awful, would they care? I’m not particularly...
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    This is why I find working/job hunting so hard!

    It’s a group, and other people are asking in an informal way too, but for some reason I was targeted.
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    What is this called?

    Up until the age of around 30, I would rush to get my words out before I forgot or got interrupted. What came out was unintelligible. It still happens at times now.
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    This is why I find working/job hunting so hard!

    There was another job today asking for website content writers. I googled it and thought it was something I could do with a bit of training, even though I have no formal qualifications. I tried to word my enquiry about training in a formal manner and it just seemed wrong. So I deleted it. People...
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    What are your emotional needs?

    I've got no idea! I think I know what I'm feeling and what I need from others, but then I try to express it and its like "Why don't you know what I want without me having to tell you!". So it just leads to frustration and irritability.
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    This is why I find working/job hunting so hard!

    Noted. I always thought of Facebook as informal.
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