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Recent content by Lysander

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    Me an Autistic, Disabled Person

    You're very lucky to have help maintaining the place you call home. Your interaction with the inspectors was uncomfortable, but necessary. :)
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    Work Gossip / Drama, and Bullying

    Hey everyone, I work in a department store stocking produce. It's not an exciting job, but it pays $13/hr and I enjoy the work itself. The only problem I'm having is that people tend to treat me like a child, or as if I'm stupid. My performance reviews are always "excellent", so I know it...
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    Autism vs. Antisocial Personality Disorder

    That's wise counsel. I'd prefer to dodge a dark triad designation, but the most important thing moving forward is clarity. I have always felt the autism diagnosis seemed to fit. I score 32 of 100 [edit: 36 of 110] on the Berkeley empathy self assessment tool. But I waste 0 energy trying to hurt...
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    Autism and Airborne Allergies

    To be blunt, there is no association between autism and allergies. Zero. Zip. However the symptoms of allergies, runny nose, dry stinging eyes, sneezing and coughing would make anyone irritable. If I were you I would establish whether he has allergies or not, if so, he's just cranky. It doesn't...
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    My sister and her aspie love

    Yeah, after reading everything you said that's happening, I would be frickin stressed out too. I was admitted due to suicidal ideation and eventually diagnosed with a temporary psychotic episode once as a teenager, but that was after the fact. I think it may have been because I told the...
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    Trouble being supportive

    It's understandable that you don't always share the same interest. For me, what always works best is to take on the "fake it til you make it" approach. He shares his joy with you because he loves you, and that makes it feel double. Just smile, and say "wow! awesome!" and look closely, and make...
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    Autism vs. Antisocial Personality Disorder

    Hey guys, Right off the bat, sorry! This is a weird topic to bring up, and I don't mean to imply that autism is connected to antisocial personality disorder. Especially because, as we all know, people with ASD have an enormous capacity for emotional and compassionate empathy. I was diagnosed...
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    A defense of marriage

    A little tangent: For the majority of people (no inheritance, school not already paid for, ect) a lucrative career won't happen for them until they are in their mid 30s and 40s, if at all. For the majority of people, the process of building middle class wealth will require 10 to 20 years of...
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    A defense of marriage

    I'm an atheist and for different reasons than you have described, I also agree that marriage has deep meaningful value. A concern I hear a lot is that people think they absolutely must become wealthy, and simply must spend six figures on the wedding. Otherwise they think they aren't "ready"...
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    Autistic empathy

    As we all know, some people have assumed in the past that those with ASD are incapable of empathy, or even of feeling any emotion at all. We know this not to be true. We know from experience, because we are ourselves people with ASD, and we do feel empathy. It is not the same thing to be...
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    Does giftedness often co-occur with Aspergers?

    I wouldn't credit your giftedness to AS, even indirectly. Most people who have asperger's syndrome (or a diagnostic equivalent to AS) do not fall under the gifted category. Don't take it for granted that you have talent. No one is a jack of all trades - we all have greater or lesser abilities...
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    Bad interpersonal experiences

    I get this too. Often I'll physically flinch from the memory of something that happened years ago, that I didn't understand at the time. I think the explanation for it may be that people tend to easily recall painful experiences. Rejection is painful, contempt is painful, and people who...
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    Going to the places that scare you

    Beautifully put. I definitely relate to what you've described. I find my base instinct is to try and find someplace empty, and to just exist there... but there couldn't be anything worse you could do than to hide from pain. Suffering is required as a sacrefice in this world in order to obtain...
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    What did you have for breakfast ?

    Egg over easy on toast, slice of provolone
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    Why I do not want to be "out" is I never want to be excused

    I think you know yourself best and that you know what you're capable of handling. Not being "out" may be exactly what you need in order to keep growing. You can only get stronger if you push your limits on a regular basis. I feel the same way. It's okay with me if someone eventually figures...
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