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Recent content by flawedplan

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    My pinterest page of ASD/Non-Spectrum Neutrodivergent relationship resources

    The price for admission in the spousal support groups is to identify as a victim of your Aspie. Of course there are exceptions to this rule. I just made one more. I go by NS since I am not an NT and know few non-aspies who are NTs. What we are is Non-Spectrum neurodivergent, thus NS.
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    My pinterest page of ASD/Non-Spectrum Neutrodivergent relationship resources

    Howdy from Austin, Yes, I'm curating and compiling, and the pinterest page is not monetized or marketable or anything like that. I just want to put something out there in the event a desperate ASD partner might stumble on it before stepping into the neurotypical victims club of our perpetual...
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    Really need some direction

    He IS improving customer relations over time. I so relate to his dilemma. I have a diagnosed personality disorder myself and before recovery, decades ago I was a public figure and capable of being a total asshole with radio listeners. Growing up and good supportive therapy goes a long way and I...
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    Really need some direction

    That 1 review, lambasting his "sons" and saying the DAD is the real draw of the place is quite a blessing, making him look so good. He has one son who pitches in now and then.The boy has impeccable manners but doesn't know as much about bikes as his Dad. I appreciate the feedback. The...
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    Really need some direction

    Whoa. I hadn't thought about that. Well I don't think a rush of reviews would go unnoticed by the filtering system but thanks for the offer. Here's his page. I am thinking about bringing it up in therapy, again. Really forcing the issue, since I don't think I'm overreacting. Waterloo Cycles -...
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    Really need some direction

    Nope, Yelp and review sites like Google, Facebook, Yellow Pages, Dex, Trip Advisor, RipOff Report, BBB, etc., all have the right (in the USA) to legally store and display user-created content without being liable for its content. My man is really smart about certain things but does not quite...
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    Really need some direction

    Howdy, happy new year, it's been a while. I haven't asked for help in a long time but I don't know where else to go and this is ridiculously big and complex, I don't expect a resolution, just some idea if we are on the right track. My boyfriend is autistic and he has had his own bike shop for...
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    Boyfriend with Aspergers just broke up with me...

    You have stepped into the lion's den it seems. Aspies can be separatists who will drive even disabled folk away, not seeing that fellow disabled are their true sisters and brothers, allied in their social marginalization. Relationships with men on the Autism spectrum are as you describe, and...
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    So frustrated!

    Howdy folks, I only skimmed through this thread, but want to tell the OP that what you are going through is how things are with these mixed relationships. And there are all kinds of resources available to improve things. Books and online groups. You might google Dr. Kathie Marshak, who has a...
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    A Real Social Autistic moment...

    There is nothing wrong with what you said, no note is required. It was a compliment, and certainly understood as such. "you're good", is childlike, not sexual, it hearkens vulnerability, and that's totally fitting for the moment and setting. You are real. The doctor should have felt honored to...
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    Receiving sympathy/pity from others

    the person showing you pity ... toxic masculinity in a nutshell. Men must not be vulnerable under any circumstances. In other words, men are not made for love. It's a deadly, soul-destroying trap, and men can step out of it.
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    Dating someone on the spectrum

    I hear you. It does sound like you know everything you need to know, and may have closed some doors. But life is about more than knowing, it's about experiencing; and there is no right or wrong connected to your experience, just a willingness to be open to letting life happen, even if it doesn't...
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    Dating someone on the spectrum

    I felt under constant pressure to fix the things I could tell I was bad at. That if I tried harder, and a bit harder still, I would be able to recognise people who seemed to think I knew them. That I wasn't making the effort to see their faces and attach the right names. That I was being lazy...
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    Honesty and masking

    Neurotypicals are the standard? I thought they were the foil. They have the same reasons for lying that are listed in this thread. I don't have a problem with this. My problem is, it's just frankly discombobulating, like, yesterday I read 5 separate websites about Aspergers and 4 of them...
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    Honesty and masking

    That sounds sensible and of course I'm the same way. I just feel compromised about doing it, ruminate, and try to squeeze in some authenticity to see what happens, just to torture myself. Anyways. I hardly ever throw books in the trash, but I tossed PRACTICING RH because I felt I could never...
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