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Recent content by AuAL

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    A-Z Places

    Kvernes Stave Church, Norway
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    Far North Queensland calling... ?

    My grandfather was stationed on Horn Island. He recalled the Japanese strafed them in the morning on their way to Darwin, then strafed them on their way back in the afternoon. I have been there and seen the slit trenches they huddled in. He was apparently never the same once he came back.
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    Far North Queensland calling... ?

    I live in Brisbane, and have travelled by road as far north as Thursday Island. OK, the last bit was by ferry. And we flew back to Cairns. Have also flown to Cairns and caught the train back to Brisbane. Couple of trips to Daintree - it’s almost always raining there. It is a rainforest. ;)
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    Seeking help with understanding depression

    Heavily academic driven. I was 2e - when I was 7 years old I was asked to read a story I had written in front of the whole school, at the school assembly. I received my first award for academic excellence that year. But I was told not to take pride in my innate ability to do these things. My...
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    Seeking help with understanding depression

    I have suffered from depression, spent years in therapy, and considered ways of “making it end.” Discovering I was autistic (at age 64) was a huge step forward. I agree self esteem is a key factor, and earning self respect by doing things that make you proud is a key step. BUT, I was explicilty...
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    Why do so many aspies have an intense hatred for sports (excepting martial arts and brainy games)?

    I have, at various times, competed in soccer, rugby league, aussie rules, basketball, volleyball, squash, swimming, cricket, yachting, orienteering and lawn bowls. I have participated recreationally in tennis, badminton, cycling, hiking, field archery, table tennis, darts, snooker, billiards...
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    Time change

    Sorry, I didn’t explicitly mention that we don’t do that here (which was what I was alluding to in my post.)
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    Books on understanding and befriending people with low self-esteem?

    Yes, our problem is within ourselves. If you think about many “problems”, this is a non sequitur. How do you “choose to think more positively”? Been there (in therapy), been given the CBT and “self-affirmation” lines. It was realising I was autistic (not broken) that set me on the path to...
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    Time change

    Time change? What time change? (Posting from QLD, Aus.)
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    Dad Jokes

    An air traffic controller said to a pilot, “What’s up with you?” The pilot said, “About 300 people.”
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    Tresorit Password Problems

    If you check the OP, it states the system is end-to-end encrypted. They don’t need to wipe the data - they just can’t give it to you. Of course, they could give you the encrypted data - subject to legal restraints as mentioned by @Judge - but unless you have the password, you can’t access it...
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    Tresorit Password Problems

    I have all my passwords in an encrypted vault. (They are generally 128 bit or longer phrases. I may have to extend the more critical ones further - so ironic I worked many years in high performance computing.) Because of my work history, I have 334 entries in the vault. Some are years old, but...
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    I'm afraid of my diagnosis and it's driving me crazy.

    You might want to look at Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD). It sounds a close match with what you describe, in terms of behaviours, and can coexist with autism. It is not treatable with drugs, so perhaps worth a look before going down that path with “BPD”.
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    Fully Exhausted My Romantic Partner

    @WRM, add this to the comments from @Outdated. “(I am uncertain if this is abuse or simply frustration).” What matters is how it is affecting you. FWIW, it sounds like abuse. What is keeping you there?
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    Is it weird that I never want to see a therapist, counselor or physiatrist because I don't want them telling me how to feel?

    I also have low self esteem. It got so bad I was in therapy, with suicidal ideation. My last therapist suggested I look into autism.💡This saved my life. Since then I have uncovered deep problems with a desperate need for external validation. “I am not good enough unless someone tells me.” I am...
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