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Why Are People So Hurtful?

This is for you Arashi222.

I read Arashi222 post on the thread how do you feel today about how some low-life asked personal questions that shouldn't been asked & how this scum made her cry.

I hate people who are so verbally abusive that they make people cry. My dad has made my step-mom cry twice since they've been married & both times he didn't say at least sorry once. He blamed her for doing that. That's when you know you're dealing a sicko.

Why do people hurt each other? I think it's that their lives are horrible & they take it out on us to make themselves feel better, you're a douchebag if you do that. People hate anybody who's different, If we were all the same the world would be a boring place, so sickos, keep your mouths shut, if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all. I also think people are really that ignorant & arrogant, if that's the case, I pitty you. You can't fix stupid. There are probably other things too, so leave me a comment on why do people say mean & hurtful thing to us.

I say this, remember that when they say mean things, that they are the ones with the problem, not you. Say a prayer for them, pitty them, feel sorry for them. Remember that you are a good person, that you have people that love you, weather it's friends, family, spouse, a group that you go to. Who cares what a stranger thinks. If they are quick to judge, that's their loss & they'll miss out on meeting a wonderful human being, plus you probably do want them in your life any way. Forget them, don't talk to them, ignore them if you have. You have the right to be assertive, if that means being an a$$hole, so be it.

When things like this happen in my life, I want to thank those who are close to me. I want to thank my 3 real-life friends, Jason, Jim & Craig for never yelling at me once. I can talk video games, books, sports, movies, superhero, & going out to do stuff like eat & go to movies. I can tell them anything & won't be judged. I want to thank my P.O. for helping me make some great changes in the last 5 years on my life. I wanted to quit braille when I lost my braille mentor & I failed my first manuscript & he helped continue & was more excited for me sometimes more than I was. I too can tell him anything.

I want to thank Aspies Central for giving me a place to talk to fellow Aspies. I really like my about 3 weeks on her. I want to thank Ste11aeres & Historianthomas for helping me with my problem 2 weeks ago & getting me to see the woman's point of view. I want to thank Ste11ares for being able to ask her about religion when I've been thinking about my spiritual side lately. Thanks to ghoulbler & Ereth for being able to talk about Batman. Thanks to Gulas for leaving a comment on my first blog. Thanks to acuteobtuse for talking about video games until late last night & thanks for saying my braille is very important & that I'm one of the good guys. Finally thanks to Arashi222. You have been a good friend in the short time I've known you. You share my like for Stephen King's work, X-Men & cartoon I grew up watching & I still watch some of them to this day & I can come to you with anything.

I'm so sorry that a$$hole talked to you like that & I hope that's the last you ever have to deal with him. If you need to talk about anything & this goes for the people I just mentioned pm me anytime.

All I can do to make the world a better place is look in the mirror & make a change & treat people nice & with respect. The price of freedom is eternal vigilance, every day do some good.

Dustman

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Ylva;bt2253 said:
To demonstrate power. It is animal behaviour.

I have thought the biggest problem with people lately is they act more like animals than humans. I do think it's power, I'll go a step further, it's controlling people with fear, threats, treating others like crap so that person feels better by making other feel worse.
 
I agree, Dustman. Animals display power for a limited series of reasons: to show dominance in certain social settings, to protect him/herself, the group, the young etc. if s/he feels threatened (as in deterring a predator). To gain a mate in competition with rivals during the appropriate season, to protect & safeguard his/her livelihood (hunting zone or water source etc.) To challenge another...

Humans do this for a hundred complex reasons. Often the person who does it has only the vaguest grasp on his motives. Some were raised with such dysfunction (or have a screwed-up brain) that they think it is normal. They only see a problem if someone does the same to them. Sometimes, it is classic Freudian displacement: since the person cannot scream at his boss, he displaces the rage onto some easier & safer target (spouse, kids, dog, salesperson etc.). Either way, despite any reasons, the behaviour is wrong.

To be balanced, though, there is a certain type of person who is extremely sensitive & cries at the drop of a hat. There is one such boy in my class (not an Aspie: just very sensitive & a little immature for his age). The slightest comments or events can set him crying he gets offended easily too. In such a case, it can be sincere sensitivity or a form of manipulative control. It forces others to tip-toe around him. In his case, there is no manipulation I can see: other kids sometimes get frustrated and target him deliberately, since no matter what thy say or do, they know he will pout. It is a hard cycle to reverse.
 

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