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Personal Identity crisis

I have a personal identity crisis going on, and I want to seek help.

(1) Nation

Recently, in my local Brony society, there are new guidelines issued by a practicing lawyer (himself in charge of the society), and they are, in theory, not enforced:

Observe.

I stated this earlier. Keep an eye on how people post. Understand what they like, what they dislike. There's a big difference between being unique, and being weird. Know the difference. Its okay to be unique, just understand that you're not special. Its a large group, there's bound to be people the same as you. Its not okay, however, to be weird. That contributes to the negative impression. This is a community: a group of people. Say what you want about conforming or joining the herd, but if you want to be accepted into the community, you have to adhere to the community norms. The best way to find out these norms is to watch, listen and observe the community.

The thing is, some of us can't conform. We like our brony stuff differently.

I was told, never make a life-long decision based on an incident.

Rest assured, this is not the case.

As the author of my favorite online article said,

Thecivil service has no clear public indication that autistics like me, even with their sub-par social skills, have a place to contribute to them. Where can we find our jobs?

In my opinion, the Civil Service is the employer of last resort. If the private sector couldn't employ the Aspies because of his autism, then either the Aspie get welfare, or he completes his degree from the local publicly funded universities and get a civil service job. Thing is, neither of which happens.

Although accounting is something which brings jobs, Singaporeans don't really do accounting. The capable Singaporeans probably go into International Trade, or does Human Resouce Management. Singapore looks down on accountants.

I will probably feel the same in Australia. But Dad always tells me, it is better to be a second class citizen elsewhere, then to be a second-class citizen in one's 'home'.

If I am discriminated implictly (by saying ignorant comments such as 'if I know it, I'll not send my kid to any class with an Aspie child, as what I overheard from some parents) and explicity (the lack of guidelines to employ Aspies, like they do in America), then why should I stay in Singapore?

I want to tell the Singapore government, I supported you for many years, I supported your government, and yet this is how you treat me and my country's Aspies - you all exclude and don't bother to include us. And the opposition is not as good as you. If this is the society I am living in, why should I support you all the way?

I am so disgusted with the Singapore government with the lack of assurance in this area, that I am willing to jump to another ship, a better and more sturdy ship, elsewhere. So if there is any job opportunities related to accounting in Australia (or England or Canada), count me in! I'll head there immediately.

But I love Singapore. I want to change society. I want Singapore to be more open-minded for all people - people regardless of gender, race, language, religion (including both Watchtower Church and atheism) or creed. I think we can all contribute to Singapore in our own ways, despite our difference.

I feel lost.

(2) Religion

My parents are Taoists who adopted some Buddhist practices. I myself went through all Buddhist rites, but I am not a practicing Buddhist anymore. I sought refuge in Buddha, the monks and the Truth (Buddha, Sangha and Dharma). However, I believe in one and only God, as He created the universe and everything in it. (Corinthians 8: 4-6)

I know why I gave up Buddhism. Two reasons:

- Opportunity. Or the lack of it.

The last time I heard of a Buddhist CEO, he got charged for corruption and jailed for embazzlement. The last time I saw the Rich List, almost all billionaires listed in Singapore are Christians. None are Buddhist. Also, the Minister in charge of the most unpopular ministry in Singapore is a Buddhist, but other than that, it seems to me the Cabinet members are mostly Christian, agnostic, Muslim or Hindu. No Buddhists I know of. What gives?

- Personal Experience.

Indeed, I have Christian friends but very, very few Buddhists. Currently, I know only one Buddhist friend (and scores and dozens of Christian friends), and that's about it. I try to reach out, but I find it hard to follow the Buddhist paradigm...

Also, I just simply believe in God.

I am currently looking for a church that I can pray and be a member in.

Sigh.

Comments

Tbh, I find it funny that this so called "lawyer" who calls himself Brony says it isn't ok to be weird... Most peole would label bronies weird... lol... seriously, I'm a brony, i just LOVE MLP:FIM, and I've watched all the episodes on youtube before I got cable tv, and the ammount of swearing and hate that most "Bronies" posted on there. In some ways I am ashamed to call myself a Brony as much as I am ashamed to call myself Australian....
 
Hey Ben:

In practice, these guidelines are enforced. This is the problem. He wants to create a conformist culture, where everyone is expected to be the same. Even though I can conform, I know subconsciously conforming is not my strong suit. indeed, most Aspies I know don't conform, and a few of them are Bronies. This explains the bullying, oppression etc. in the local Brony society I joined.

I want to get out of Singapore as soon as I can, after I finish my degree. This brony Society directive is not the first one that made me mad. There are many incidents:

One Aspie mate I know has to leave the country permanently because a famous blogger, Xiaxue, said, with regards to the honest and candid comments that mate made on her blog:

just extremely distasteful, uncouth, and with absolutely no class at all. Even criticism can be insightful and witty but these are just written by the lowest of society - people with the IQ and sexual urges of baboons who barely mastered language... he loves to use flowery language that seems to be beyond his linguistic ability so they all don't make any sense.

Another incident involved an Aspie, who, even after apologised to an auntie as he pushed her off the bus (which is wrong...), got flamed and trolled because he's an Aspie.

In my opinion, Singapore - I 'cannot stay in this place any longer'. It's anti-Aspie.

Who's your favorite pony? Mine's Rainbow Dash, though Apple Jack comes at a close second.

If I am a Brony and an Australian, I'd be very proud to be both :)
 
Accountant is a respectable profession in America. They are not looked down upon except for the general impression they are boring. Sometimes they are called bean-counters. Those are the worst labels I have heard. There is a lot of room for growth and change within the Accounting Profession in America. If you are thinking about a country to come to I would recommend the USA. It is definitely not thought to be a second class profession here and many CEOs of large corporations come from a Finance background.
 
Loomis: I love boring stuff, so long as there is opportunity to do so! :) Oh, sure, US is a great country to head to :)

Accountants, after all, are finance professionals! For those who survive years of accounting, accounting will provide the professional support functions for businesses to operate.
 

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