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My Confessions as a subpar student

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I admit passively aggressive to most other people, I always wanted to beat others soundly, because I just don't like some things, and I have found no viable way to speak out loudly against them, as I'd like to, since we are living in a mostly conformist culture in my society.

Perhaps I should look beyond my mental mindset, and to say this loud and clear:

I don't see the point of studying hard. In my mental model.

Studying hard means continuation of torture.

How can I give 100% when I know this is not what I am doing?

I am only in school because I am expected to by various forces (Dad, Mom, my siblings etc.) And my parents talked me out of doing some idealistic social sciences degree course, so I dropped out from it even though I loved it, because 'they bring no jobs'.

But as an alternative, I found that I have little practical skills and networking for real employment anyway, and I admit having a sucky attitude, I don't feel like networking even though there is considerable encouragements to do so in school.

In short, I'm at a loss. I can't work, I can't do school, so what do I bring?

In my life, I just want to enjoy life, party and drink, and then live fast, die young.

Perhaps God has a purpose for me, like the possibility of me changing the world I live in with compassion and love, provided by my experiences with my internal struggles with pain.

How can I not be passively aggressive, and unintentionally hurt others? I feel I am already wasting many years in my life.

Perhaps, with God's love and help, I can overcome my own pain, and stop inflicting unnecessary pain on others.

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I certainly hope that you can overcome your pain because I see a young man who has a LOT to offer his country even if his country doesn't realize it. I am reading about Susan B. Anthony who struggled for DECADES to get women the vote and died without ever realizing her goal. Yet, because she did not give up ("Failure is Impossible" was her motto) women like myself can enjoy rights and privileges she only dreamed of. So you don't know what your work will lead to even if you don't see the goal. Likewise Dr. Martin Luther King said just before he was shot that he might not make it to the Promised Land with the rest of his people but he could see it from the mountaintop.

But please don't give up on education. Because not having an education makes it easier for those in power to control you. Look at all the groups that have been denied education. Betty Friedan talked about the "feminine mystique" and how women just surrendered their power and autonomy in the service of a false god. I believe that there is a "disability mystique" which is just as firmly entrenched. If you give up on education and give yourself to partying you are only confirming the world's opinion. I believe that you will be a leader someday in the Singaporean community--in some ways you already are.
 
This comment couldn't have been more timely. I was about to drop out of my current course, currently not recognised by the Singapore government but recognised elsewhere. Maybe, eventually, my degree will be recognised as it is. I'll continue to keep on learning as much as I can, in school and on the job.
 

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