You ever impulsively post something really dumb, and regret it a minute later?

[Yeshuasdaughter]

I've got a problem. I've been really lonely and bummed out because of difficult life events lately. There's so much big sad in my life, and anything tiny that makes me smile means so much.

I don't want to bring anyone down so I'm sorta keeping all the big sad to myself.

I've been pretty much constantly on the forum games and just trying to keep my mind and my hands busy so I don't have to be in the here and now, because now can be a very scary place. Especially with the things I'm going thru.

I posted something really embarrassing here and deleted it. I'm sorry if you saw it. It's goofy and stupid.

Anyway, do you ever have that problem? You send something out, and then realize right after, "Oh goodness, that is so dumb. It doesn't reflect at all where I am in my life. It's just nonsense." ?

 

[UFO]

Yes. To avoid this, I can spend an hour writing a short comment like this. Just to make sure that it both makes sense and is not offensive. Still I end up quickly deleting my posts with a reported reason "brain fart".

I have four guidelines for embarrassing situations: After hundred years, no-one remembers *). Those who remember, most likely remember the post, not who posted it. And in most of times, only the poster cares. Everyone screws up, I am only one among millions.

*) This is internet, make that hundred years something shorter like hundred minutes, as there is so much other more interesting information to remember.

 

[NB79]

Yes i relate. Sometimes i wonder why that happens to me.

 

[Tired]

No, I think what I write and why. And once I send it I try not to dwell on it.

 

[Metalhead]

You think you can not use the r-word here, please?

 

[Alexej]

You send something out, and then realize right after, ..

yes - happens all the time.
However, its hard to have to think things through 15 ways before you post, and even then realise after is is gone that it could be read in a different way.

 

[JayLapointe]

I've got a problem. I've been really lonely and bummed out because of difficult life events lately. There's so much big sad in my life, and anything tiny that makes me smile means so much.

I don't want to bring anyone down so I'm sorta keeping all the big sad to myself.

I've been pretty much constantly on the forum games and just trying to keep my mind and my hands busy so I don't have to be in the here and now, because now can be a very scary place. Especially with the things I'm going thru.

I posted something really embarrassing here and deleted it. I'm sorry if you saw it. It's goofy and stupid.

Anyway, do you ever have that problem? You send something out, and then realize right after, "Oh goodness, that is so dumb. It doesn't reflect at all where I am in my life. It's just nonsense." ?

I've done that before. More often though I'll spend 15-20 minutes composing something, often a reply to someone else's post and then once I'm done, I just hit delete before even sending the reply. Just "why bother". Often for me though I know it's usually a response to someone that wasn't actually looking for a response. You know when a person complains about X, you explain why X happened, then realize they don't care for the why, they just wanted to vent so there isn't any point in an explanation.

 

[Mono]

I have, once. Got help from someone on the forum, then we both decided it was best to have the topic deleted. It was still good I initially posted, though. As it did get me some help and make me feel better.

 

[Hazel_1914]

All the time, no need to feel alone.

 

[Kitsuna]

I do that all the time here, mostly when I’m upset about something.

 

[Poppy98]

Yes, i wish we could just delete things or edit them especially when I read back and realize that what I said was extremely misleading or confusing.

 

[Judge]

I freely admit to having a nasty habit of re-editing *most* of my posts in real-time. Being acutely aware of everything from saying the wrong thing to misspelled words or bad grammar. Though in private messages, yeah...it really counts to getting a message right the first time. I get that.

Then again it all may be just another endless practice based on my OCD and little else.

 

[the_tortoise]

I freely admit to having a nasty habit of re-editing *most* of my posts in real-time. Being acutely aware of everything from saying the wrong thing to misspelled words or bad grammar. Though in private messages, yeah...it really counts to getting a message right the first time. I get that.

Then again it all may be just another endless practice based on my OCD and little else.

I don't think that's a nasty habit...why is that a nasty habit? (Real question, in case it seems like it isn't...all of my questions are always real questions unless I say otherwise.)

You should hear me try to speak; I often edit my words as I speak them...(of necessity, and while almost never being able to say anything like "Wait, wait - let me start over" because that would be too much for my brain)

Which means stopping and restarting, huge pauses -- it's a mess. But it's the best I can do.

Funny thing about "getting it right the first time"...since communication depends on both speaker/writer and listener/reader, imo there is never any guarantee of getting it right the first time; I fully believe that nobody can actually predict all of the ways another person might misunderstand them (let alone account for every single one of them without writing so much that very few people would want or be able to read it).

 

[Judge]

I don't think that's a nasty habit...why is that a nasty habit?

It isn't simply something I do as a matter of cause or diligence, but rather something done more on a compulsive level. Better known as:

- Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Sometimes such things may have helped me on the job, but more often than not it wears me down over something I cannot necessarily control- or stop.

At times and various circumstances it might seem like an asset, but in the big picture it amounts to an endless sense of perfection, symmetry and order that at times makes life miserable. On top of unwanted thoughts...

 

[the_tortoise]

It isn't simply something I do as a matter of cause or diligence, but rather something done more on a compulsive level. Better known as:

- Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Sometimes such things may have helped me on the job, but more often than not it wears me down over something I cannot necessarily control- or stop.

At times and various circumstances it might seem like an asset, but in the big picture it amounts to an endless sense of perfection, symmetry and order that at times makes life miserable. On top of unwanted thoughts...

Understood. I'm sorry -- I misunderstood what you meant.

 

[Judge]

Understood. I'm sorry -- I misunderstood what you meant.

That's ok. It's just a very weird and often misunderstood condition that promotes people to do weird things or have weird thoughts.

One of my most prevalent rituals is having to check my front door lock before I go to bed. Something I may do as many as four times. Even walking up to the door knowing that I absolutely need to check one more time....and then doing it all over again.

And when I attempt to resist such, it just lingers on my mind until I find it easier to just give in.

Needless to say I almost never discuss this with anyone in the real world. But here, I don't mind as it may be of help to anyone else who has comorbid OCD to their autism. Just to know they aren't alone.