Would you take it personally?

[Nikolaoskartufis]

There is a guy who's arrogantly aggressive with everyone and likes to make fun of other people, insult them etc. they seem to get annoyed for a moment but then they still laugh and talk with him, go out with him. When he does the same with you you take it personally, you obsess about what happened, you think it's all about the person you are in many aspects and may think of him, can't forget what he ve done and still believe he had something with you more than with anybody else. Is that the case?

 

[the_tortoise]

If he insulted me personally I would take it personally, whether he did the same to others or not.

Knowing he was just generally a jerk to everyone would help me not to take his hurtful words to heart -- but it would not guarantee that I would not feel any hurt at all.

 

[Chance]

I basically try and avoid people like this... If they are a jerk, rude, crude, demeaning to others, that is their character flaw to deal with.

If they say something to me directly... Not really wanting too, I will usually call them on their substandard behavior, that usually ends them messing with me personally. However, I dislike having to do that, and I only do it when people won't back off. It certainly doesn't make me feel good to call out anyone... and I try to avoid it until its becoming a real issue.

 

[WildCat]

Depends. If he's simply spewing words and doing it somewhat in a joking manner, I'd be more than willing to let it go. Heck, I might do the same to him and see how he takes it...I mean, he shouldn't have a problem with it and it's not a one-sided thing, right? His kind are IMO practice for the rest of the jerks to come. He doesn't realize it (or maybe he does), but he'd be doing me a bit of good on the side - once the initial "I'm now annoyed by this" feeling goes away.

If his actions are in line with his words on the other hand - that is, he's not just pretending/acting the part but being one as well, that would be a problem. I'd probably be doing my best to keep my distance and tune him out, and if things get really toxic, exploring other options.

 

[Myway]

I am not sure what I would do. I hide from people like that though. I hide period, but it would give me even more reason to hide. I tend to take a lot of things personally, so I might. Especially if I knew this person well. If it is just an acquaintance, then I wouldn't take it personally. It all depends on the person for me.