I feel so out of my depth but sadly see I have very little choice!
It is regarding my youngest niece who at just 14 has become addicted to sex and to be blunt, my sister has no control and also is a major procrastinator.
We have always had our doors open to our nieces and nephew, but my sister stunts any progress.
Social workers got involved and my sister promised that she would take control over her daughter and that, when she gets her passport renewed, she can go to France. She failed to do anything.
Apparently a young girl of the same age, in the same street, was murdered and thus, it was imperative to remove Jodie to a safer environment.
So please note, that she had the chance of coming to us in January, but I received a message from my sister about a week ago, to say that she signed half rights away to social services. That she felt pushed into signing.
I managed to contact the social worker involved and spent an hour on the phone with her. It was horribly difficult because they are the worst people to talk to and will use emotions against you and I failed to begin with, because I felt so angry and frightened. Finally I came into my own and she said that it is out of their hands now and that the courts will decide where to place Jodie. Said that she would phone me back in a couple of days. And "took" my email address so that I could send photos of our home. She said that what ever I said to her, was in the strictest confidence and so, I put some matters straight about our past and related some facts about my other sister.
This social worker fobbed me off and also breached confidentiality.
Jodie was removed and now in Dover. She did blame her mum but now doesn't but does not want to talk to me or her other auntie and I think it is because she feels we let her down ie didn't try hard enough to for her.
I have no association with my other sister ( a long story), but she sent my husband a message that was from me and told me that I had no right to s**g her off and that I would find my life would be better if I put the past away! It is so hard to not want to punch lol I get so angry that I can hardly breath.
So, I asked my sister for the number of this place where Jodie is and as typical, she doesn't have the number, but I ask why not? In other words, she talks to Jodie via mobile phone. Lol she told me that Jodie does not want to talk to me and then says: I will ask Jodie for the number!!!!!!! And no, my sister does not have aspergers.
I see that I had no choice but to contact this blasted social worker and ask why she felt it necessary to lie to me. Sadly though, she was not there and had this rather blunt, no nonsense woman on the phone. I guess I was stupid because I said I needed to speak to Jodie's social worker because she had lied to me ( I know, whoa) and of course, the woman demanded how and so I told and then she said she would give me the phone number. I, sadly misheard her and of course, she uses this against me by saying: no, I need YOUR phone number and so I tried to say: ah of course, that makes sense and sorry, I misheard you. So I gave her the number, knowing full well that she was not going to phone back. She claims she is going to get back with the number of the establishment, but I would be surprised if she did.
Once blasted social services have their teeth into a situation, it is impossible to work with them!
I am going to try and find the number online, because it is imperative that I speak to my niece to show her that I care and love her. It is powerful to a teen to know that their auntie who lives in France, is going out of her way, to contact her. If she decides she doesn't want to talk to me, that is fine, because I will try again and again and again.
It is times like this when I wish I was not aspergic!
It is regarding my youngest niece who at just 14 has become addicted to sex and to be blunt, my sister has no control and also is a major procrastinator.
We have always had our doors open to our nieces and nephew, but my sister stunts any progress.
Social workers got involved and my sister promised that she would take control over her daughter and that, when she gets her passport renewed, she can go to France. She failed to do anything.
Apparently a young girl of the same age, in the same street, was murdered and thus, it was imperative to remove Jodie to a safer environment.
So please note, that she had the chance of coming to us in January, but I received a message from my sister about a week ago, to say that she signed half rights away to social services. That she felt pushed into signing.
I managed to contact the social worker involved and spent an hour on the phone with her. It was horribly difficult because they are the worst people to talk to and will use emotions against you and I failed to begin with, because I felt so angry and frightened. Finally I came into my own and she said that it is out of their hands now and that the courts will decide where to place Jodie. Said that she would phone me back in a couple of days. And "took" my email address so that I could send photos of our home. She said that what ever I said to her, was in the strictest confidence and so, I put some matters straight about our past and related some facts about my other sister.
This social worker fobbed me off and also breached confidentiality.
Jodie was removed and now in Dover. She did blame her mum but now doesn't but does not want to talk to me or her other auntie and I think it is because she feels we let her down ie didn't try hard enough to for her.
I have no association with my other sister ( a long story), but she sent my husband a message that was from me and told me that I had no right to s**g her off and that I would find my life would be better if I put the past away! It is so hard to not want to punch lol I get so angry that I can hardly breath.
So, I asked my sister for the number of this place where Jodie is and as typical, she doesn't have the number, but I ask why not? In other words, she talks to Jodie via mobile phone. Lol she told me that Jodie does not want to talk to me and then says: I will ask Jodie for the number!!!!!!! And no, my sister does not have aspergers.
I see that I had no choice but to contact this blasted social worker and ask why she felt it necessary to lie to me. Sadly though, she was not there and had this rather blunt, no nonsense woman on the phone. I guess I was stupid because I said I needed to speak to Jodie's social worker because she had lied to me ( I know, whoa) and of course, the woman demanded how and so I told and then she said she would give me the phone number. I, sadly misheard her and of course, she uses this against me by saying: no, I need YOUR phone number and so I tried to say: ah of course, that makes sense and sorry, I misheard you. So I gave her the number, knowing full well that she was not going to phone back. She claims she is going to get back with the number of the establishment, but I would be surprised if she did.
Once blasted social services have their teeth into a situation, it is impossible to work with them!
I am going to try and find the number online, because it is imperative that I speak to my niece to show her that I care and love her. It is powerful to a teen to know that their auntie who lives in France, is going out of her way, to contact her. If she decides she doesn't want to talk to me, that is fine, because I will try again and again and again.
It is times like this when I wish I was not aspergic!
