What is the thing you most want NTs to understand about people on the spectrum?

[Dreadful Dante]

I wish they would understand I didn't ask to be like this. But I am and it's a part of me I have deeply accepted. There wasn't and still isn't any need to punish me or blame me for things out of my control. They just assume I'm being purposefully rude and that I'm willingly awkward and offensive.

For them, I'm alexithymic because I'm not trying hard enough and I don't have natural social skills because I haven't "found the right person".

From their perspective, I should stop reading so many books on Body Language, Psychology, etc, when these are some of the only things that could help me after almost two decades.

The ones who think they accept me, don't even know me below the artificiality of roleplaying (or trying to roleplay) reciprocity. If I try to be slightly honest and be myself just a little, all I get is an agressive response (occasionally violent).

I have given up their acceptance. Maybe in the future I'll find someone who will show me how to behave when I'm "wrong" instead of calling me stupid.

I'm very happy, though.

 

[Catlover614]

I wish they would understand I didn't ask to be like this. But I am and it's a part of me I have deeply accepted. There wasn't and still isn't any need to punish me or blame me for things out of my control. They just assume I'm being purposefully rude and that I'm willingly awkward and offensive.

For them, I'm alexithymic because I'm not trying hard enough and I don't have natural social skills because I haven't "found the right person".

From their perspective, I should stop reading so many books on Body Language, Psychology, etc, when these are some of the only things that could help me after almost two decades.

The ones who think they accept me, don't even know me below the artificiality of roleplaying (or trying to roleplay) reciprocity. If I try to be slightly honest and be myself just a little, all I get is an agressive response (occasionally violent).

I have given up their acceptance. Maybe in the future I'll find someone who will show me how to behave when I'm "wrong" instead of calling me stupid.

I'm very happy, though.

You're not stupid! I hate that word. My own mother tormented me with calling me stupid all of the time. Family members and peers both have laughed at me and hurt me deeply. I wish NTs would obtain some compassion and understanding of autism and aspergers and I wish that if they view us as stupid, they would just kindly leave us alone. I have cried and cried over this so much that I can't cry anymore. I realize that I am overly sensitive, however, I am done with apologizing for my awkwardness. Accept me as is or get out of my life.

 

[Dreadful Dante]

Every detail you wrote is relatable, Catlover.
Specially about your mother. I went through the same thing.

I now have the self value of a King (not in a bad way) and wouldn't allow those things to happen.

 

[Mr Allen]

To be able to declare AS on a job application for anything other than voluntary work and not have my application binned because the employer has never heard of AS and is afraid of it

Also, to not be accused on-line of being retarded, particularly by Americans on sites such as YouTube, this is mostly wrestling fans who regularly insult me for not "marking" for the likes of CM Punk, and the fact I respect the likes of John Cena and Roman Reigns, 2 guys who the Internet Wrestling Community (IWC) hate.

 

[Rayner]

That I'm not broken or helpless. I may have ASD but I'm still capable.