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What did I do wrong?

Astroganga

Astroganga

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On facebook I came across a public event from May, organised by a facebook friend of a friend, a workshop in my parents' city to make and use a pinhole camera. I tried posting on the event page a couple of weeks ago, asking if the workshop would be held again, and had no reply. So I messaged the organiser, though she does not have facebook messenger so cannot be sure if she saw it or not (a month or so back fB started marking all messages to those without Messenger as 'seen' regardless of if they were or not). Then I put in a friend request yesterday, as I thought this would alert her to check her inbox at least and surely she would see our mutual friend and see I am genuine and not some kind of scammer. I just now checked her profile again and she has removed the friend request button and put her profile on lockdown. It does seem to be in response to me putting in a friend request. I feel now as if I must have overstepped a line or something, did I do something wrong?
 
You didn't do anything wrong. Facebook is designed for the things you wanted to do.

Perhaps the event didn't turn out the way she hoped. But that is not your fault, and all you did was express interest!

She's just a person who doesn't explain.
 
I had a friend whom I had been acquainted with for over ten years decide to block me FB when I sent her a friend request. For no reason that I could see. I mourned for awhile, but have now simply let it go. I don't think I ever really knew her.:confused: But please resist the temptation to beat yourself up about it, the way that I did myself; there simply isn't enough information to know exactly what is going on in this situation. I am sure that you did nothing wrong!:)
 
Thanks, the original event was small (intended to be) but successful as far as I could see. Despite it being a workshop with only a few attendees I still had to psyche myself up into asking about it, because I get nervous about meeting new people. She didn't block me, but just removed the add as friend button and made her friend list private but I still felt I must have done something wrong to make her do that. I've never had anything like that happen before so I questioned my self. Thanks again for the reassurance because I find these situations hard to judge.
 
Unfortunately you may never know the reasons. Clearly this is not someone you want to associate with anyway, if they are going to shut you down in this way without giving reason. Such is life in the 21st century, alas.
 
Thank you, I was probably just being paranoid and it was some personal issue and nothing to do with me. She is a foreign student so maybe she has had problems with immigration, fees or doesn't know if she will be able to continue studying next year, who knows? Anyway, in a way she has done me a favour, as I became more determined to find similar workshops locally as opposed to having to travel to my parents', and sure enough there is an organisation that hold them every few months.
 
Now that is a win, Astroganga !

I think that we have this problem-that-isn't-a-problem: we expect what it says on the tin.

If people say they want to be friends, we believe them. If people say we should be honest, we are. If people say they want something, we think they want it!

The simple fact that NT's breezily DO NOT LISTEN to what they are told might be that are trained from an early age to not believe what they hear. Because so many of them don't do what they say they will do and not believe facts and live in this fantasy world which they prefer to reality.

I have some news for them: Reality always wins.
 
Well an update, I think she must have come across my message or my post as she suddenly added me as a friend now and has promised to let me know when any future workshops are, though I am not sure if she deleted my friendship again straight away or it is a common facebook glitch. But anyway she replied and said she would let me know of future events, at least.
 
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