What are you trying to overcome?

[Aspychata]

Getting all the homeless people off the street.

 

[Lemon Zing]

I must say, forums about mental health and things like that, can be rather crap. Like everytime I post on a forum like this one called No More Panic, and certain other communities related to depression in the past, some whiney idiot reports my posts for supposedly bashing women. And while I may refer to women doing, let's just say stuff, I wasn't slut shaming anyone. I was just describing what the situation was like. But some people just need to be less insensitive.

 

[Sup3rman82]

We are all here as collective colleagues helping each other thru what feels like unsurmoutable obstacles. What is your current obstacle that you need to vent about?

I can't get out of the house. I don't know how to start an interaction with others. I can talk when I'm approached first, but very rarely does the conversation last, or grow in to a friendship. I don't know where to go to meet people to try and start conversations.

 

[8398]

Quite simply, I'm trying to overcome what had happened to me the last 3-4 years.
Before then, I was fine as a person. I had a lot of beautiful thoughts and a strong inner world. I still do, but a little less so, and I feel a bit jaded, easier to irritate, intimidated by time. (Oh, and traumatized beyond comprehension I guess)

I had really good stubbornness and moral boundaries. I opened up to someone who completely tormented and crushed me. Everything is a bit less colorful, and more difficult. It's only been a year since then, so it's okay that I'm not able to do what I want, right?

How I'll overcome this is through time, and doing things when I'm ready. May as well be gentle on myself.
There's two concepts that are prevalent in conversations, the idea that life is yours to conquer, vs riding the waves of what life does to you. Some believe that one is more true than the other. If it's too much of "life is yours to conquer" it can mean ablism, toxic positivity, self blame and victim blaming. Too much "riding the waves of what life does to you" can mean self imposed misery and excessively blaming others.

It tend to lean more towards the latter. Maybe because I have been hurt by ablism. I get worried, but I think I do a good job balancing the two. And I wont usually judge others too much based on where they align. It's complicated and based on: Understanding of the situation, morals and standards. Nobody will ever know what happened to me. It adds a depth of loneliness but also empowerment. It really had to be taken to a freaken extreme, but it's turned into more care for myself, thanks to that still remaining sliver of self care that I automatically have as a living creature. I want to be how I used to be and make new memories but I'm also reallyyy sleepy and tired. Maybe even depressed. I'm okay if nobody ever likes me again because I have my cat and she kind of likes me, and she is impressive. I just want to be a nice person. But who knows, maybe I'm just saying that because I'm in the mood for it.