king_oni.. i can honestly say i've never had the cops ask. i don't know if it's just because they don't care or notice or because i appear as somebody the cops just don't care about (fat white kid with a cartoon shirt often talking to himself and not only responding but arguing with himself) or even because i get told far too often that i "look" fine. in the sense that there isn't anything really wrong other than being shy and a bit weird because i've learned how to fake everything and mentally hide everything in a corner so i don't create any
and just to chime in about the bouncer thing... my father is a "door man" (aka: bouncer) at a bar next to where i grew up. but he's been doing it for years and actually knows how to just talk to the drunk people to get them to willingly leave (very rarely there's any fights.. it's still a bar, usually anything physical is dragging people out of a bathroom for having sex) but in that time he's worked with atleast 12 different people. 2 of them friends he had for years before... all of them meatheads. even the couple who didn't want to fight just couldn't help their own temper
For some perspective; this city is on the verge of a serious gangwar between biker gangs, lol. And looking a bit more alternative/metal probably puts you on their radar as well. And my aspie friend kinda shares that look with me, hence we often get stopped together if we're out and about at night.
Perhaps my biggest issue is that I'm not that introvert and able to keep my mouth shut with cops. About a year ago when I got stopped by cops, a female officer questioned me and I really had to choose my words or I would've ended up in the back of their car for sure. It's questions like "Can we have your phone number?" (most likely for some kind of check in their system eventually; and I'm like... well actually I want to say "I like women in uniforms, but I don't know if this is the right way to pick me up". I just had to tell myself to shut up, lol).
As for the bouncer thing; I think I did fairly good restraining myself. Sober I'm probably way more aggresive (and capable) of things most drunks wouldn't even consider. It's those times where, when I'm out with a friend of mine, and a situation comes up like this, they just know that I'm totally up to claw out a sidewalk tile from the streets and use it as a weapon... and while it never happened, my friends know I'm totally up for that. On the other hand; I've had a lot of fun conversations with bouncers at clubs that let me in (which, usually were the more alternative venues). Speaking of which; I often get mistaken for being a bouncer myself when I'm outside for some fresh air at a club; which perhaps very un-aspie-like, actually made me poke some fun with it in that I knew people thought I was part of the staff and told people to go back inside among other things, just for a laugh.
So all in all, it's a mixed bag for me. I'm usually quite cool and calm with everything and have a quite laidback attitude but I do have that "sh*t just got real" mode attitude, which can be triggered within a moments notice... but that might be a topic for another discussion, heh.
The entire thing however with being stopped by the cops is interesting though, as my friend got a card from the national autism association in my country, which, while it's not neccesarily a valid document, it is something you can show cops which will help them, as much as you, to treat the situation a bit differently. So far, my friend, while he has been stopped, he hasn't been frisked ever since. But again, other topic, other discussion.
