Transition from school to uni

[KiwiMonkey]

Hello,
I am hoping that I will be going to uni in September, dependant upon getting grades required, but I am worried this will cause me problems as I do not like new places or new people, I will also have to share a flat with people I have never met before and, even though I have been assured I will have an ensuite, I will still have to have to share a kitchen. If I could afford it I would look at applying for a studio apartment but I can't. I am also worried about how not fully taking part in some events at uni, eg. all the loud parties, will effect me in meeting people and generally becoming friends(associates more likely) will effect me as I will not really go to any as there would be too many people and too much noise that I would not be able go there and enjoy myself and would probably have a break down and mild panic attacks for that week.
I would like to know if anyone has any advice how to deal with the first few weeks in particular as I don't know how I am going to cope with it all!?! :/

 

[Judge]

No matter how distressed or awkward you may be on the inside, do your best to pretend to appear friendly on the outside. I do recall that living in a university dorm, I was pre-screened to share a room with another person relatively introverted like myself.

For the most part I found myself amongst some of the friendliest people in my lifetime. Eventually I discovered I had a certain amount of social ease of it all. Looking back on it all, I did much better than I thought I would. While contrary to my neurological profile, it was mostly a positive experience.

I do recall one thing that made a huge difference. As wild and crazy as things got in the rooms and hallways, each floor had it's own large and somewhat sound-insulated study room. And it was understood and agreed that total silence was maintained inside there at all times. So I always had a place to get my studying done and occasionally retreat to just for the quiet. I remember the two guys who majored in Forensic Science seemed to live in that room!

 

[KiwiMonkey]

Having seen some accommodation, although not the one I have been allocated, it does not seem to have a room for particuarly being quite but I could ask to see if there is one on campus. They said I was reserved a quiet room so hopefully that is true, and hopefully I will be able to get some extra help as well but I really want to at least make a few 'associates' so that I also have people to be with when I don't want to be alone because even though it is often very tiring to socialise it makes me feel less lonely and when I'm in a completely new area it would really be nice to know there are people I can be around, even if it ends up with me just listening in to the conversation rather than taking part. I'm just worried that people are going to think that I am too weird when I say I don't like drinking or going out to loud parties and will therefore not want to socialise with me :/

 

[GoofKing]

I kind of wished that I studied harder or actually cared about the SAT's and ACT's test :/ I think I scored the lowest and ruined any chance to get into a university, which I wanted to study computer science ...

 

[KiwiMonkey]

For me results have never been a major issue luckily and I very much doubt that I have not got the grades to get there, but because I have issues with meeting new people and making friends, to which I am sure that many people on this forum can relate, it is makinge so anxious about going to uni that I can not be excited about it like most other people :/ x

 

[Etzelaire]

I'm in university and I sit alone while There's no other person sitting alone in the class. But when we have an exam friends sprout from everywhere and they want to sit next to me. So I do my exams with a blank paper over the question I've already answered.