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Things not looking good for me...

Dillon

Dillon

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I have been at A&M for a couple days now and iam getting real discourage I don't want to go into full detail. My roommate has been so rude to me but nice to my family. Some girl friended me on social media who is also attending A&M and I introduced myself and for some reason she got offended at me and said she will have her boyfriend come over to beat me up just for introducing myself. I keep having a pattern of many people being so ugly to me that I don't know how long I can take it. Iam afraid and feel I won't find anyone supportive and understanding as a friend. I thought the people at A&M was suppose to be better than this. I feel like iam in the wrong when I meet new people that I should just keep my mouth shut.
 
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If you ask me. I would say to keep your mouth shut. It's the safest thing you can really do. As the old saying goes "If in doubt, don't". I had to learn to keep my mouth shut as well and it's the safest thing I can do. You're not alone in this situation. Interacting with NT's is a lot like walking on eggshells you really, really gotta watch everything you say.
 
Dillon Campbell said:
I have been at A&M for a couple days now and iam getting real discourage I don't want to go into full detail. My roommate has been so rude to me but nice to my family. Some girl friended me on social media who is also attending A&M and I introduced myself and for some reason she got offended at me and said she will have her boyfriend come over to beat me up just for introducing myself. I keep having a pattern of many people being so ugly to me that I don't know how long I can take it. Iam afraid and feel I won't find anyone supportive and understanding as a friend. I thought the people at A&M was suppose to be better than this. I feel like iam in the wrong when I meet new people that I should just keep my mouth shut.
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It sounds very tough for you there lately, Dillon. I am terribly sorry that this has been going on. Have you tried going to talk to your counselor or advisor about your problems? They may have helpful suggestions.

I wonder if there is some online degree that you could get, if it becomes too hard for you to stay in that school. Try this if you absolutely can not stay where you are.
 
I learned it better just keep my mouth shut and learned to not let it bother me. I just sort of shut everyone out. They were there around me, but, that was it. Like trees around you in the forest. I'm still a lot that way to this day.
I interact, but, that's as far as it gets.
 
Dont freak out, dillon. Whatever you thought or expected, this is how the majority of people you will deal with in your life will be. The good news is, keep your mouth shut and your focus on your goals, and it wont affect you much. NTs like to mess with people. Not in a gentle, eventually letting you in on the joke fashion, but in an exclusionary, cold and predatory way. Dont worry too much about first threats, as nearly all of them come to nothing. Dont provoke. Answer softly, dont get rattled and remember why you are there. Be strong, and start learning to deal with this crap because otherwise you will spend your life limited, scared and dependent. Also remeber that these things happen to everyone, but that aspies take them more seriously and way too much to heart. Mostly, its just monkeys baring fangs, showing their butts and being mad because you wont act subservient and groom.
 
It is true, that as hard as it is, we need to say very little, because when we do not, we wind people up.

I do feel blessed though, that I have a few females who seem to accept me and do not make me feel like rubbish or that I have said something wrong and I am so grateful to them for that.

The worst part, is what they deem as offensive, seem outright ridiculous; that is if one is "happy" to oblige what wound them up.

It is quite possible, that in your attempt to be nice, she interpreted your niceness as a "come on" and so reacted negativily.
 
Alaska said:
It sounds very tough for you there lately, Dillon. I am terribly sorry that this has been going on. Have you tried going to talk to your counselor or advisor about your problems? They may have helpful suggestions.

I wonder if there is some online degree that you could get, if it becomes too hard for you to stay in that school. Try this if you absolutely can not stay where you are.
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I really appreciate the offer but there is no way I would do an online degree or take classes online. I like to be in class in person so an actual person can help explain the material. My dream for a while is to be a marine biologist to study and protect sharks and I am not going to give up on that.
 
The girl did half ass apologized I screen shot the text. Apparently she does not want me to talk to anyone. I only had one of my friends texted her to stop bullying me but she overreacted to that and did not tell the full story. What do y'all think is she serious or not?
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Dillon Campbell said:
I have been at A&M for a couple days now and iam getting real discourage I don't want to go into full detail. My roommate has been so rude to me but nice to my family. Some girl friended me on social media who is also attending A&M and I introduced myself and for some reason she got offended at me and said she will have her boyfriend come over to beat me up just for introducing myself. I keep having a pattern of many people being so ugly to me that I don't know how long I can take it. Iam afraid and feel I won't find anyone supportive and understanding as a friend. I thought the people at A&M was suppose to be better than this. I feel like iam in the wrong when I meet new people that I should just keep my mouth shut.
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'Some girl friended me on social media'

How did that happen? Did you send her a friend request?
 
Dillon, socializing within large groups of NTs is for us, taking a blindfolded jog through a minefield. Try to stay around the edges, probe slowly and carefully and dont try to get anywhere too fast. Find some.nice oddballs to hang out with.
 
Fridgemagnetman said:
'Some girl friended me on social media'

How did that happen? Did you send her a friend request?
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She friended me and she is going to the same university as iam so I decided to introduce myself just saying my name and what I will be major in and that's when she unfriended me and had an attitude. Now she has some of her friends ganging up on me but I've been ignoring it.
 
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