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I'm sorry. Almost the same exact words were said to me as a child.“It’s your fault that you’re being bullied. Maybe it wouldn’t happen if you didn’t act so differently from everyone else.” Those were the exact words I kept hearing
I’m sorry that was said to you. School was horrendous for me too. I was often bullied, and ended up having to drop out and be homeschooled for a time up until university because it was continuously verbal, physical, mental harassment on a daily basis to the extent that I had a breakdown, self harmed and tried to kill my self. Worse thing was that the school didn’t care. They said I wasn’t “ streetwise enough” yet failed to address the actions of the particular students and member of their support staff.“It’s your fault that you’re being bullied. Maybe it wouldn’t happen if you didn’t act so differently from everyone else.” Those were the exact words I kept hearing
You still haven’t learned that your words can affect others, have you? Kids can be really cruel to each other. I know this because I’ve worked with them on and off for a few years now.Your parents should have helped you understand why you were being bullied and what you could have done differently to avoid being bullied. CBT helps people who were neglected learn what their parents should have taught them. Many times what people think is bullying is nothing more than harmless teasing that people can easily deal with by changing how they think.
In my life I have only had contact with one truly dispicable creature. Just thinking of him gives me the willies. There were a lot of garden variety creeps, jerks, and sad sacks for me to observe and it made me double down on being better and liking myself and stop being shy, if only to show women that there are good men out there.And some people are unworthy, people who abuse others, start wars for ego, corrupt, thief, kill others, bully, gaslight, ... I dont care much if they know much or not. The world would be better without them.
I hate victim blaming. It is as if they are merely piling on to avoid being a victim themselves. That, or being in such a bubble of privelege that they feel they do not need to be cogniscent of, or care for the experiences of, others.I'm sorry. Almost the same exact words were said to me as a child.
No one ever deserves to be bullied. It's not your fault.
very true. I have been the recipient and witness to this. It’s like a mob mentality to gang up on someone to avoid being a target themselves and they don’t care about how it impacts the person in the center of focus. As a recipient, no one did anything for me. My psychiatrist believes that it is an underlying cause, like PTSD to many roots of my problems today. As a witness, it doesn’t last long because I would often prevent it from happening. Even if I was the bad guy, I’d rather have a few miserable little kids hate me than have another kid kill themselves or have a lot of impactful emotions to work out later on.I hate victim blaming. It is as if they are merely piling on to avoid being a victim themselves. That, or being in such a bubble of privelege that they feel they do not need to be cogniscent of, or care for the experiences of, others.
I'm somehow having a completely different perception of Matthias' behavior. It seems like responses to him are non-sequitur and make faulty inferences.