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Teenagers in School

OmegaGreen17

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Does anyone have any experiences to share on how they have dealt with...lets call them the "smart-alecs", the ones who get the laughs by insulting people, and everybody then LOVES them to pieces, talk about ilogical, aren't we meant to be the stupid ones in the social word eh?

These smartarses in question, are people I try SO desperately to like, but they are just that hateable, every person like this in my previous years in school have been people who I will never get along with, and THEY know it also, it has lead to depression over verbal bulling, like it could do now, if it gets so unbearable that you hang on every word they say, when it should "all be taken as a joke".

Even then, a joke is a joke until it becomes a bore, then its a joke no more.

These people infuriate me, and the ones who like them back.
 
Every high school is full of them, unfortunately :( But not everyone is this way. I found acceptance among those deemed "socially inept"--those who played Magic and Dungeons and Dragons, and liked anime (hey, I sure did; it gave us something to talk about together). Those who were very wrapped up in their studies. Basically, people with traits of asperger's here and there, but not much of an impairment (or maybe moreso, depending upon the person and their intelligence). Unfortunately, some schools aren't big enough for groups of these people to thrive :(

In short, the people who act as though all the world should be taken as a joke are not worth your time. They'll grow up eventually, and then maybe it'll be easier to not hate them--but hating them now just gives them power over you :/
 
Maybe I should pity them? Haha.

Not sure really, i've had this before, and the only way it was really solved is through time, when they just get bored or something like that.
 
Does anyone have any experiences to share on how they have dealt with...lets call them the "smart-alecs", the ones who get the laughs by insulting people, and everybody then LOVES them to pieces, talk about ilogical, aren't we meant to be the stupid ones in the social word eh?

These smartarses in question, are people I try SO desperately to like, but they are just that hateable, every person like this in my previous years in school have been people who I will never get along with, and THEY know it also, it has lead to depression over verbal bulling, like it could do now, if it gets so unbearable that you hang on every word they say, when it should "all be taken as a joke".

Even then, a joke is a joke until it becomes a bore, then its a joke no more.

These people infuriate me, and the ones who like them back.
I stay Fror from them(Wow)
 
I was kind of bullied when I was a younger kid - usually by groups of kids or by older kids (often in groups also), as I was very big for my age. The only guy who gave me a hard time when I was older than about 12 was trying too hard to prove to himself that he wasn't gay. The funny thing was that it never seemed to occur to anyone else at school that he was gay, and it never really occurred to me that he wasn't.

I bumped into him 10 or 11 years after finishing high school. Sydney is a funny place, it is full of gay people but few of them were born there. The gay people born in Sydney tend to move elsewhere. He was working as a doctor in the emergency ward at a hospital on the Gold Coast in Southern Queensland. My mother was dying and trying to stay at home as long as possible, but when things took a turn for the worse we had to take her in to emergency one night. He was so nice, an obviously pleasant and gentle soul. My mum really liked him, he gave her the painkillers she asked for (when other doctors tried to force her to take morphine, which affected her badly). He was also obviously not in the closet any more.

In broader terms, schools need to be a lot less ignorant regarding the problem of bullying. Parents need to stand up for their kids. Sending your kids off to school to get physically abused every day is NOT a recipe for making them into stronger adults. Kids who get bullied have almost invariably done NOTHING to deserve it, other than being a little different or whatever.
 
Depends how the school works, if you CAN stay away from the bullies. What do you do in play time? Or between lessons? And you don't have to say anything to a bully. If they do speak to you and you ignore them, that's can set them off. Of course, whatever you do say won't stop the bully, if they've decided to pick on you. How's it work when you're an adult? Socially, I mean.
 
Yeah, I've had to put up with that kind of people at school. I think a lot of the reasoning behind why they get off on making others feel bad is probably down to insecureties about themselves, and as long as they're picking on someone else, nobody's picking on them. Unless you can find a way to knock them off their perch, I think your best option is to just ignore them tbh.
 
Most teenagers are funny at that age, I definitely was but my style of thinking was far ahead from people my age.

I'm still growing out of my time and it's becoming more harder and harder and my teenage years weren't all that good, I had been bullied in the past for different reasons.

I had depression at 16 and yes, I do wish I could turn back to fix it again but unfortunately, whatever happened in the past happened the past.
 

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