Voltaic
Plaidhiker@youtube
ahh, the old saying. just be yourself. there is truth to it, but things that make me, me, are also things that others find displessurable. i often have to make modifications to how i act in order to not just be a drain on others who are talking to me.
I strive to be normal. i have the tendancy to want to fit in, and there have to be certain things one must do in order to stay a contributing member of conversation. this sometimes clashes with what i would rather do. sometimes a conversation devolves into a checklist type thinging. i have to do this when he does that, kind of like using precalculated senarios to juge how to act.
it is monotomous, i would rather be myself, but socailly, it is viewed as wrong.
when you get to know the person, you can make it normal for you not to be normal, but the socail rules are more constrict with first time engagments, you have to boil your identity into what you are going to say. even the act of not saying anything, is saying something
i feel like i have a personality to maintain, i have to be someone. everything i say contributes to others view of who i am, so i have to walk carefully.
i sturggle to take into acount all these socail nuances, and rather come off as rude, or robotic.
so far it is my strategy to normalise to others and myself not being normal, but it is slow, amd course against the grain of how others work. my goal is to achieve a balance, but i have no idea what that will look like. so far, i have been wrong in making assumptions, so i stoped assuming my assumptions where correct.
this is complicated, and i have no idea how to handle myself in most situations.
of course, this is my anxiety saying a lot of this stuff. it is more emotion than logic, hut it makes it no less of a struggle.
I strive to be normal. i have the tendancy to want to fit in, and there have to be certain things one must do in order to stay a contributing member of conversation. this sometimes clashes with what i would rather do. sometimes a conversation devolves into a checklist type thinging. i have to do this when he does that, kind of like using precalculated senarios to juge how to act.
it is monotomous, i would rather be myself, but socailly, it is viewed as wrong.
when you get to know the person, you can make it normal for you not to be normal, but the socail rules are more constrict with first time engagments, you have to boil your identity into what you are going to say. even the act of not saying anything, is saying something
i feel like i have a personality to maintain, i have to be someone. everything i say contributes to others view of who i am, so i have to walk carefully.
i sturggle to take into acount all these socail nuances, and rather come off as rude, or robotic.
so far it is my strategy to normalise to others and myself not being normal, but it is slow, amd course against the grain of how others work. my goal is to achieve a balance, but i have no idea what that will look like. so far, i have been wrong in making assumptions, so i stoped assuming my assumptions where correct.
this is complicated, and i have no idea how to handle myself in most situations.
of course, this is my anxiety saying a lot of this stuff. it is more emotion than logic, hut it makes it no less of a struggle.