Social Media and texting 😜

[DeFunkCat]

Texting is hard for me. What is the implied message? What is going on for that person? With their family friends, work hobbies? …… It’s also about thinking about what other social norms involved in replying. Am I replying too soon? Am I leaving it too long? Am I giving away too much information? Most times I’ll leave it for a bit and have a good think about it. with group texts I like to wait and see how other people respond so I can get a temperature of the conversation. Is this masking? probably. I certainly can’t naturally respond. I often see a text is received and wonder about it quite a bit before reading it. I usually respond after having time to massively overthink it coming round in a full circle to what I originally thought about the text. It’s exhausting like most social interaction is for me.

 

[vergil96]

It's a matter of practice, like "intuition" often is

 

[DeFunkCat]

I get it. I’ve done post grad studies in change mgt, org dynamics, business psychology. Knowing it is one thing. What you intrinsically are and know makes the actual practice v difficult.

 

[Shamar]

Texting is hard for me. What is the implied message? What is going on for that person? With their family friends, work hobbies? …… It’s also about thinking about what other social norms involved in replying. Am I replying too soon? Am I leaving it too long? Am I giving away too much information? Most times I’ll leave it for a bit and have a good think about it. with group texts I like to wait and see how other people respond so I can get a temperature of the conversation. Is this masking? probably. I certainly can’t naturally respond. I often see a text is received and wonder about it quite a bit before reading it. I usually respond after having time to massively overthink it coming round in a full circle to what I originally thought about the text. It’s exhausting like most social interaction is for me.

I cannot read between the lines or understand innuendo or implied meaning. For me, the words themselves are the message, the ONLY message.

 

[DeFunkCat]

yes, the only message. It’s so not the only message though, for me,

 

[Outdated]

I don't use any social media and I haven't sent a text since the 90s. A phone is handy sometimes, but no where near as often as most people believe. My phone spends most of it's life turned off and I never take it with me when I go out. If my bank would send me payment verification codes by email instead of text I wouldn't bother having a phone at all.

 

[Shamar]

I don't use any social media and I haven't sent a text since the 90s. A phone is handy sometimes, but no where near as often as most people believe. My phone spends most of it's life turned off and I never take it with me when I go out. If my bank would send me payment verification codes by email instead of text I wouldn't bother having a phone at all.

I have had the almost identical conversation several time when someone asks for my cell number.
"I'm one of those perverted freaks without a cell phone."
"How can you function without a cell phone?"
"Very peacefully and without stress."
"That's definitely weird, but I don't think it makes you a perverted freak."
"I also like bagpipe music."
Sometimes I get a comment like "That may put you over the line."

 

[Trophonius]

I have had the almost identical conversation several time when someone asks for my cell number.
"I'm one of those perverted freaks without a cell phone."
"How can you function without a cell phone?"
"Very peacefully and without stress."
"That's definitely weird, but I don't think it makes you a perverted freak."
"I also like bagpipe music."
Sometimes I get a comment like "That may put you over the line."

Life is really more peaceful without a phone and social media.

I would ditch my phone had I not need one to communicate with people at my job.

 

[DeFunkCat]

I have had the almost identical conversation several time when someone asks for my cell number.
"I'm one of those perverted freaks without a cell phone."
"How can you function without a cell phone?"
"Very peacefully and without stress."
"That's definitely weird, but I don't think it makes you a perverted freak."
"I also like bagpipe music."
Sometimes I get a comment like "That may put you over the line."

Yes, it would be easier. I for the most part don’t use my phone as a phone. It’s a music player, research device, daw and so many other things. Texting I try to minimise but it’s the device is so helpful for my interest and safety too.

 

[Sherlock77]

I don't text much, and only with certain people I know well

I very much prefer getting together with people in person, my social media isn't very active anyway, I'm not very popular ... And I don't have my Facebook on my phone, only my desktop computer at home

My cell phone is always with me, as my only phone, but doesn't alert me much anyway, see above, I actually get very few phone calls

 

[Judge]

I've never owned a cellphone, but have to admit that it's getting more difficult to be without one with certain security protocols to consider. Still, I manage without one.

 

[Sherlock77]

I've never owned a cellphone, but have to admit that it's getting more difficult to be without one with certain security protocols to consider. Still, I manage without one.

My sister, roughly aged 60 or so, is having difficulty with doing online banking now as she has never owned a cell phone at all

I bank online, but not on my cell phone, and my credit card isn't on my phone... But there is one downtown parking lot company without a machine to pay for the parking, you have to use their app to pay... I suspect more of the world is headed that way

 

[Judge]

My sister, roughly aged 60 or so, is having difficulty with doing online banking now as she has never owned a cell phone at all

I bank online, but not on my cell phone, and my credit card isn't on my phone... But there is one downtown parking lot company without a machine to pay for the parking, you have to use their app to pay... I suspect more of the world is headed that way

I'll probably be dead by then. Problem solved.

Besides, as long as there are competitors willing to accommodate customers like me, I can essentially ignore vendor requirements to use an app. Not to mention our FBI has a public warning against using two-factor text authentication anyways.

 

[FilterFreq]

Texting is hard for me. What is the implied message? What is going on for that person? With their family friends, work hobbies? …… It’s also about thinking about what other social norms involved in replying. Am I replying too soon? Am I leaving it too long? Am I giving away too much information? Most times I’ll leave it for a bit and have a good think about it. with group texts I like to wait and see how other people respond so I can get a temperature of the conversation. Is this masking? probably. I certainly can’t naturally respond. I often see a text is received and wonder about it quite a bit before reading it. I usually respond after having time to massively overthink it coming round in a full circle to what I originally thought about the text. It’s exhausting like most social interaction is for me.

Sounds like my adaptive strategy, too, based on past (perceived) failures.

Sometimes someone writes me a long text, I write a long text back, and then I just get, "Cool, man". Then I spend the rest of the night wondering how I could've done things better.

If anyone were to ask, "Hey, what's it like having autism?", that would be my best explanation