Sick of it all. How to get through?

[Frostee]

Heya. Got my as results two B's and a D.

Thats ok but not too happy about the D. Basically I have a weakish form of asbergers syndrome and I am sick of it. I don't think my parents know how to treat me (my mum takes everything to seriously about it and worries far too much and then my dad talks to me like i'm thick) and then of course all the councillors do is tell me to be positive and let's be honest i'm getting sick of that because nothing positive ever happens really (except results really proud of those).

In school no one is really interested, theres a few people who will look out for me but as per usual they want nothing to do with me when it comes to friendship because I am not "in". Apparently I am "gay" because of my voice and mannerisms (tbh I don't go on like that at home- only when i'm anxious). But anyway even if I was who really cares, what is wrong with that? Tbh I think to myself that those people are shallow and not worth my time. There is only one person who REALLY tried with me and I applaud her but eventually it was dropped because she got sick of me and was sometimes quite nasty. But yes.

So anywho I went into school the other day and was given the unfortunate news that I have to go alone (on my own) to another school to do one of my a level subjects because my (pathetic) teacher dropped out half way through the course! BRAV bloody o!!! It was for retirement in case you are interested. Nothing to do with sick.
I am not happy about this and I am extremely anxious. It is an enormous pressure to put on someone with this condition. I don't know what to do and I do not want to actually go at all. I need advice? I am ready to have a nervous breakdown (not literally)Thanks.

I also have literally no friends. I am tired of it all and I cannot be bothered to goto school with those people anymore. They don't give a flying crap about me and they have not even text me to ask me how I did in my exams? I know thats self absorbed but honestly, have a bit of common desency for someone whos having trouble. I am not really sure how I am going to get through this year without losing the rag if it is anything like last year which is worrying me. I don't like making people sad but I just get impatient after a while.

Has anybody got any advice on how to get through school in general this year? Thanks very much! It is appreciated

 

[total-recoil]

I know what you mean about the "gay" jibes. I have a slightly high voice and am probably androgenous so people make rapid judgements. I do music so maybe it's good for the image - it never hurt Mick Jagger's career and look how many girlfriends he got! Actually it doesn't bother me any more.
As for the rest of it, it's hard to solve the fact you're having a tough time as problems always arise like this. All I can tell you is self belief is something you will need to gradually develop so you stop listening to all the negativity around you and focus on your own goals. You can't change other people and have to somehow choose the friends who are more supportive.

"an inflexible army does not triumph
an unbending tree breaks in the wind
thus the rigid and inflexible will surely fail
while the soft and flowing will prevail

Tao Te Ching ? Lao Tzu ? chapter 76"

Heya. Got my as results two B's and a D.

Thats ok but not too happy about the D. Basically I have a weakish form of asbergers syndrome and I am sick of it. I don't think my parents know how to treat me (my mum takes everything to seriously about it and worries far too much and then my dad talks to me like i'm thick) and then of course all the councillors do is tell me to be positive and let's be honest i'm getting sick of that because nothing positive ever happens really (except results really proud of those).

In school no one is really interested, theres a few people who will look out for me but as per usual they want nothing to do with me when it comes to friendship because I am not "in". Apparently I am "gay" because of my voice and mannerisms (tbh I don't go on like that at home- only when i'm anxious). But anyway even if I was who really cares, what is wrong with that? Tbh I think to myself that those people are shallow and not worth my time. There is only one person who REALLY tried with me and I applaud her but eventually it was dropped because she got sick of me and was sometimes quite nasty. But yes.

So anywho I went into school the other day and was given the unfortunate news that I have to go alone (on my own) to another school to do one of my a level subjects because my (pathetic) teacher dropped out half way through the course! BRAV bloody o!!! It was for retirement in case you are interested. Nothing to do with sick.
I am not happy about this and I am extremely anxious. It is an enormous pressure to put on someone with this condition. I don't know what to do and I do not want to actually go at all. I need advice? I am ready to have a nervous breakdown (not literally)Thanks.

I also have literally no friends. I am tired of it all and I cannot be bothered to goto school with those people anymore. They don't give a flying crap about me and they have not even text me to ask me how I did in my exams? I know thats self absorbed but honestly, have a bit of common desency for someone whos having trouble. I am not really sure how I am going to get through this year without losing the rag if it is anything like last year which is worrying me. I don't like making people sad but I just get impatient after a while.

Has anybody got any advice on how to get through school in general this year? Thanks very much! It is appreciated

 

[Christian T]

I get called "gay" as well because I don't fall under the very specific category of the stereotypical male from the movies and on tv.

I also have been very disillusioned with the way my classmates have treated me on many occasions. Personally, I think you're right to withdraw from them. The good thing about Asperger's is that it tends to bring out the worst and the best in everyone around you. Those that are superficial and selfish are exposed as such, often in huge numbers, but you also get to find out how understanding, kind and open-minded some people can be. There is no point trying to impress those that are closed-minded and who think you're "gay" - the whole concept of a certain way of talking and moving being "gay" and another being "normal" is a purely subjective social construct anyway. Just look out for those wonderful human beings who are worthy of your friendship - and they might not necessarily come from school. Treat the words of the others like sleep-talk - not something to be paid any heed.