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Should I apply to local clothes shop Peacock's?

I'm not doing it, Dad says it's "not suitable".

This is a bone of contention between us, he's always said he does not want me to work.

I however, don't want to prove the Internet right in their opinion that I am a work shy slave to the benefit system.


Rich

You don’t have to prove anything to anyone.

Work if you want to work, volunteer or enjoy a hobby if you need to keep your mind active whilst not working.

Don’t let it worry you or stress over it.
The opinions of others are just words.
Doesn’t really mean anything unless you believe it.
:)
 
It wouldn't hurt to apply. Since you can't print you should see if there is a way to submit a resume online or maybe you can print at a library.
 
Here in the USA we have “supportive employment programs “ for the disabled. At least in the huge cities like the Chicago region. An “employment specialist” helps disabled folks get regular jobs with real-life normal wages. These are normal jobs within the regular work force. This is really a refreshing change from the olden day’s where the disabled had to work in extremely low-wage workshops doing mindless piecework. They still have those work shops those for the severely cognitively disabled. They still serve a purpose but I don’t understand why the piecework wages are so sickenly low.
 
I've decided to have a punt on the Peacocks job, Dad won't approve but as mentioned he doesn't want me to work full stop, I may get an interview, I may not, we'll see.

I took in the CV and cover letter yesterday, but I doubt I'll get it, clothes shops mainly employ women, and gender based discrimination isn't illegal in the UK as far as I know.
 
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We talk about this often at work. Most smart employers will word it as generic as possible, mentioning nothing of a disability. Say it just wasn't a good fit for the company.

Just me but I'd hate working for someone who didn't want me and I fought to get my job back. I can bet they would make my life miserable every day. I'd rather just look for something else.

But I wouldn't worry about that right now. If they really want to get the position filled efficiently, they're going to hire the best of the applicants that they get. You'd be surprised the people who show up for interviews drunk or on recreational drugs, or don't even really want to work anyway. So just be the best you can be.

Yeah I've seen people like that, the kind of work shy Chavs who end up on Jeremy Kyle every day just going through the motions and attending interviews in order to keep their Dole money, even though it's blatantly obvious they don't wanna work.
 
You would think an employer would WANT to hire someone that wants to work. I cannot understand what goes through some of these folks minds - maybe that's just one sign of my autism. My grandfather almost never hired the most skilled person to do a job - he hired the one that was the most motivated, teachable, and willing to learn. He said those 3 traits make for a loyal, happy employee. Alas, I believe those days are long gone.
 

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