Toni
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I dont want to make long post about my history, but long depression and bullying destroyed my selfesteem to critical level where i thought about myself that im worthless and stupid human being that cannot do anything right. I have always valued myself by how well i perform in different ways, how well i do in school and do i have a job etc.. Because depression and other difficulties of how well i do with people, i was mentally disabled for many years and couldnt do much of anything.
In past year i moved to different city to be closer to my son, i started to do work with myself and slowly started to get better. I started to realize that i can do well if i put myself to work.
I started to be with people more and did daily walks and started to draw again, which was long time on brake.
Anyways now that i have got my selfesteem back again
i did a list in which ways very low selfesteem affected me, and maybe it does similar way to other people aswell.
If you have good selfesteem:
-You can take critism and jokes about yourself . Every negative thing doesnt feel crushing and you can just brush it off.
-You are more relaxed with other people, in sometime i was carefully moving my body and thinking about the poses that they dont seem "funny" also affects how expressive you are.
-Social "mistakes" dont feel so crushing and you dont think about them too much with good selfesteem.
-Trust about your skills is healthy and positive and new situations are seen in positive light as a opportunities and not challenges.
-How intelligent you think you are, if your selfesteem is low you might start to think your stupid and if its hight you might start to think (sometimes falsely) that you are smart.
-Other peoples facial expressions doesnt affect you. If someone is smiling you dont start to think that they are mocking you.
-You can defend your own beliefs and values and can argue with other people about different topics.
-Your self image is more positive. For example looking at the mirror you see yourself more attractive.
-You dont have to prove yourself to other people or try to please them. You can do your own intrests.
-You are socially more confident and more relaxed. And in that way more skilled.
-You can take rejection in healthy way and dont start to think that theres something wrong about you.
-You love yourself more.
-You see world in different more positive light.
In past year i moved to different city to be closer to my son, i started to do work with myself and slowly started to get better. I started to realize that i can do well if i put myself to work.
I started to be with people more and did daily walks and started to draw again, which was long time on brake.
Anyways now that i have got my selfesteem back again
i did a list in which ways very low selfesteem affected me, and maybe it does similar way to other people aswell.If you have good selfesteem:
-You can take critism and jokes about yourself . Every negative thing doesnt feel crushing and you can just brush it off.
-You are more relaxed with other people, in sometime i was carefully moving my body and thinking about the poses that they dont seem "funny" also affects how expressive you are.
-Social "mistakes" dont feel so crushing and you dont think about them too much with good selfesteem.
-Trust about your skills is healthy and positive and new situations are seen in positive light as a opportunities and not challenges.
-How intelligent you think you are, if your selfesteem is low you might start to think your stupid and if its hight you might start to think (sometimes falsely) that you are smart.
-Other peoples facial expressions doesnt affect you. If someone is smiling you dont start to think that they are mocking you.
-You can defend your own beliefs and values and can argue with other people about different topics.
-Your self image is more positive. For example looking at the mirror you see yourself more attractive.
-You dont have to prove yourself to other people or try to please them. You can do your own intrests.
-You are socially more confident and more relaxed. And in that way more skilled.
-You can take rejection in healthy way and dont start to think that theres something wrong about you.
-You love yourself more.
-You see world in different more positive light.
