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Self-Determined Aspie Looking for Help

I hear ya. Interacting with the neurotypical is an exercise in futility. It's going to end badly, just a matter of time, and probably not much. Possibly violently. It takes so much energy just to be awkward. Technically, I doubt there are many jobs out there that are beyond me, but then there's the "Get out there and sell yourself (to the neurotypical)" part. Got to be one of the worst things you could ask an Aspie to do.
 
I think that can also depends on the group distribution. If you have a group with say 50% ND - 50% NT and the NDs do their job very effectively, the weirdness might be less of an issue. I changed schools and jobs until I found people that I was happy with. I'm certainly not done though. So rather than "not selling oneself correctly", maybe this can be looked at as "not buying"?
 
Sasha22 said:
I think that can also depends on the group distribution. If you have a group with say 50% ND - 50% NT and the NDs do their job very effectively, the weirdness might be less of an issue. I changed schools and jobs until I found people that I was happy with. I'm certainly not done though. So rather than "not selling oneself correctly", maybe this can be looked at as "not buying"?
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Not sure what you're getting at. "Not Buying?" Well I'd really like to do art from home again.

Forest Cat said:
Hello.
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Hey there!
 
Jacks Brain said:
Not sure what you're getting at. "Not Buying?" Well I'd really like to do art from home again.
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I meant that it's worked better for me so far to not look at things as "me having to sell myself" but rather to look at it as me "buying or not buying" what others are selling. It's led to more comfortable work connections and situations. I don't know if that's any clearer - hope so. :)
 
Jacks Brain said:
I got my first clue that something might be up a few years ago, when a guy I was working with decided to start commenting about how annoying I am. He had a wife who was a nurse, and apparently he was telling her about me and she asked if I had autism. Well I didn't know anything about "autism," except my mother took care of an idiot savant for a while and they said he was autistic. I'm not anything like that, but a few months later I came across an Aspergers video on YouTube. I watched a few of those and I do act a lot like Aspergers people. One of the videomakers said what he would look for as a typical indicator of Aspergers, is a guy who suddenly wakes up at 50 and realizes he has no career. I'm painfully close to that point. I'll be seeking an official diagnosis, although I imagine there is little to no help for Aspies in America.
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oh, please keep your heart strong.

ask me for support!
 
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