Seeking help with understanding depression

[scleod]

Understanding more about myself, my autism, helped significantly with the depression. I fell below the threshold for psychological intervention with weeks of that discovery. I still struggle with anxiety, and have not completely overcome that, yet. (“Yet” is one of the most powerful words in the English language.)

Have you ever considered trying EMDR? I know it has mixed reviews. But I was also not responding psychological intervention until EMDR. Omitting the rapid eye movement because of many TBIs and lingering PCS.

 

[Lou Laurinen]

Wanted to apologize for my initial reply in this thread being a little harsh.

I’m still recovering from a friendship with a person like this who really hurt and traumatized me and my husband.
Obviously not everyone behaves the same way for the same reasons so there is probably more to the story with your friend. My own traumatic experience clouded my judgement here.

Hope your friend is able to get some professional help and support and begin recovering.

 

[scleod]

Wanted to apologize for my initial reply in this thread being a little harsh.

I’m still recovering from a friendship with a person like this who really hurt and traumatized me and my husband.
Obviously not everyone behaves the same way for the same reasons so there is probably more to the story with your friend. My own traumatic experience clouded my judgement here.

Hope your friend is able to get some professional help and support and begin recovering.

Oh, no need to apologize! Not harsh! I didnt take it personal AT ALL in regards to my situation with my friend. I asked for peoples advice from their situations, experiences and so on. You gave me just that I appreciated it!

I cant just cut them out completely that isn't an option.But I will alter you advice. Sometimes it is best to give them space and turn on some music like you suggested

There is quite a bit I have left unsaid in this story for privacy purposes to respect my friend.

 

[Kayla55]

To this day the way something is phrased can offset me, such as
'So, you are interested in XYZ of what we offer'
ASD can look similar to avoidant personality disorders.
As opposed to
'come here, I want to show you something'

Said before finding one's feet in world with autism is daunting, whereas with older people it may be feelings of hopelessness.

 

[scleod]

To this day the way something is phrased can offset me, such as
'So, you are interested in XYZ of what we offer'
ASD can look similar to avoidant personality disorders.
As opposed to
'come here, I want to show you something'

Said before finding one's feet in world with autism is daunting, whereas with older people it may be feelings of hopelessness.

Could you possibly expand on your points more for me. Ie Why would the way something is phrased offset someone?

If you don't have the words to expand I understand.

 

[Kayla55]

Could you possibly expand on your points more for me. Ie Why would the way something is phrased offset someone?

If you don't have the words to expand I understand.

Avoidant personality disorders (look it up on Google)
Perhaps having someone with ASD assert themself by saying yes, I'm keen to find out more (is learnt skill of communication that doesn't come naturally)

So even though it's not gaslighting or narcissistic tone or way of implying underlined meaning it could just get opposite reaction of further withdraw.