krisi
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So, I'm a full time college student; my standing is technically "senior", but I've already been accepted into a grad program, so half of my credits are undergraduate, half are graduate. I also work at the local Children's Museum, anywhere from 15-30 hours a week. It's a full schedule, but I like the structure it provides.
I also have two roommates (well, 3 actually, but one just pays the rent here and lives with her boyfriend). One of my roommates is deaf; she has cochlear implants, but she takes them out to sleep. The other is hearing. They both are about as "typical" as college students get: They love sports, they like to party, they study only what and when they have to, etc. I really don't have a problem with this, to each their own.
Going back to my job, my shifts usually start at 8:30 in the morning, and I work every weekend. It's a high energy job. I love being around kids, but parents get cranky and I have to use all of my limited social skills to keep them happy (my managers have been really helpful in providing "scripts" for different situations, so I usually know what to say. Other side note: I rarely have problems with the kids in the museum, just the parents who don't watch their kids or don't think the rules apply to them and their family). I check people in (where I meet the most cranky parents), take care of the museum floor (lots of cleaning), and run birthday parties. I have to be able to concentrate during all of these things, especially the birthday parties, which parents expect me to run smoothly.
My roommates don't seem to understand that when I need to wake up at 7:30 in the morning to be on time for work, I need to go to bed around 11:30. I dislike it when I cannot go to bed by that time on any day, because I like to wake up early, but it is especially important on days that I work. When I don't get enough sleep, I can't think straight, I stim more, and by the time I'm done with work, I don't have the energy to study.
My roommate who is deaf is really loud, louder than any of my other friends or relatives who are deaf or hard of hearing (I have quite a few friends who are deaf/HoH). Her friends are just as loud as she is, and the problem arises when she has her friends over, because they are in the other room shouting late at night when I am trying to sleep. When I say "late at night", I don't just mean at 11:30 when I want to go to bed. Sometimes it lasts until 1:00 or 2:00 in the morning, or even later!
I've tried talking to them, I've tried explaining the situation, I've asked nicely. I'm done. I'm at the end of my rope, and nothing thus far has worked. The only solution I see is that, whenever they keep me up at night, I wake them up when I need to be awake for work.
The major problem: The roommate who is causing the problem is deaf, and does not sleep with her implants on. Thus, if I were to blast my music in the morning, it would only affect my hearing roommate, who is quieter, and generally more respectful.
This other roommate, however, is still part of the problem, even if she's not the one making the noise, so I don't feel as bad for involving her and waking her up.
I know it's "passive agressive", and "immature", but they don't seem to understand the frustration of not being able to sleep in your own bed when you want to (In the past, I have even gone to sleep at friends' apartments because I couldn't sleep here). They also don't seem to understand the frustration of having to ask over and over to have your routine respected. I have some ideas, but I don't know how well they'll play out.
Any ideas? Please help I can't live like this for the next five months.
I also have two roommates (well, 3 actually, but one just pays the rent here and lives with her boyfriend). One of my roommates is deaf; she has cochlear implants, but she takes them out to sleep. The other is hearing. They both are about as "typical" as college students get: They love sports, they like to party, they study only what and when they have to, etc. I really don't have a problem with this, to each their own.
Going back to my job, my shifts usually start at 8:30 in the morning, and I work every weekend. It's a high energy job. I love being around kids, but parents get cranky and I have to use all of my limited social skills to keep them happy (my managers have been really helpful in providing "scripts" for different situations, so I usually know what to say. Other side note: I rarely have problems with the kids in the museum, just the parents who don't watch their kids or don't think the rules apply to them and their family). I check people in (where I meet the most cranky parents), take care of the museum floor (lots of cleaning), and run birthday parties. I have to be able to concentrate during all of these things, especially the birthday parties, which parents expect me to run smoothly.
My roommates don't seem to understand that when I need to wake up at 7:30 in the morning to be on time for work, I need to go to bed around 11:30. I dislike it when I cannot go to bed by that time on any day, because I like to wake up early, but it is especially important on days that I work. When I don't get enough sleep, I can't think straight, I stim more, and by the time I'm done with work, I don't have the energy to study.
My roommate who is deaf is really loud, louder than any of my other friends or relatives who are deaf or hard of hearing (I have quite a few friends who are deaf/HoH). Her friends are just as loud as she is, and the problem arises when she has her friends over, because they are in the other room shouting late at night when I am trying to sleep. When I say "late at night", I don't just mean at 11:30 when I want to go to bed. Sometimes it lasts until 1:00 or 2:00 in the morning, or even later!
I've tried talking to them, I've tried explaining the situation, I've asked nicely. I'm done. I'm at the end of my rope, and nothing thus far has worked. The only solution I see is that, whenever they keep me up at night, I wake them up when I need to be awake for work.
The major problem: The roommate who is causing the problem is deaf, and does not sleep with her implants on. Thus, if I were to blast my music in the morning, it would only affect my hearing roommate, who is quieter, and generally more respectful.
This other roommate, however, is still part of the problem, even if she's not the one making the noise, so I don't feel as bad for involving her and waking her up.
I know it's "passive agressive", and "immature", but they don't seem to understand the frustration of not being able to sleep in your own bed when you want to (In the past, I have even gone to sleep at friends' apartments because I couldn't sleep here). They also don't seem to understand the frustration of having to ask over and over to have your routine respected. I have some ideas, but I don't know how well they'll play out.
Any ideas? Please help I can't live like this for the next five months.