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Actually, it would solve most problems.
I really wish I could say what I think.
Nothing is stopping you.I really wish I could say what I think.
You can say what you think, but I'd caution about denigrating women as they are probably not the source of your issues. Late virgins [I was one, but not as late as you] frequently develop unhealthy body image and self concept issues and while hard, rewriting your inner dialogue to be positive is doable. I recommend reading two things (or even the whole book) Inside The Mind Of Guys Who Are Shy And Inexperienced With Women | www.succeedsocially.com and Problems Facing Women Who Are Shy And Inexperienced With Men | www.succeedsocially.com. One passage really spoke to me: Some shy women have had the unfortunate experience of being targeted by predatory, manipulative men who think they'll be easier to take advantage of. Not being approached by anyone who's their type is a particular problem for shy women who are into guys who are more quirky, sensitive, or intellectual, since those types of men tend not to be very forward themselves.I'm not allowed to say what I think.
As you go through life, be observant. I miss a lot of social communication, but when I had to dig deep there are instances of girls/women trying to make a connection when I thought I was isolated. Are you taking part in groups centered around your interests. I belonged to a Sierra Club outings group where I practiced socializing and meeting people. It helped me significantly. Now, in groups I like being useful and enjoy helping people. My spouse and I organize bicycling and paddling trips and we ensure that all are welcome and have a good time. My last surprise came a couple of years back when I was on a trip to Morocco with geologists and interested amateurs. I had a great time helping people in the field, identifying their finds. At the last meal with the group, I gave out specimens from my area to everybody as I do on trips like that. I was nonplussed when a woman got up and with tears in her eyes hugged me, saying that she was hoping to meet a nice person like me. And I used to think that women never noticed me.A lot of odd assumptions there.
There's no one in my "world." Thus, no one to even be background noise.
If I've not had a date or lost my virginity by 40, should I just go die some where?
Seriously. I can't stand it anymore.
Isn't what it's cracked up to be, there usually a lot of drama that comes with it. (Especial if they have exes.... who are voilent.....trust me you dont want that in your life..)
There is a certain peace of mind, freedom, that comes from being an autonomous entity with no attachments to anything. Of course you only realize things, after it's gone. In hindsight. (I have a tendency to idealize the past though...)
How wonderful. I am a believer that chance favors the prepared. I believe that when my spouse and I met it was the red string of fate. I was still recovering from isolation, a virgin at 28, not feeling like a normal man and learning how to recognize an accepting person with common values and compatible interests, she was tired of feeling used by men when she was hoping for a relationship and wanted to meet somebody to enjoy the outdoors with. We fell for each other on an intense 4 day road trip to a trail maintenance project. My anxiety about intimacy disappeared that fourth day and her pleasure was so important to me that she felt that I was nothing like the other selfish man-children. We were both prepared to take advantage of the chance that brought us together.I was 42 when I finally had a girlfriend. We were together for eight years. We had sex and there was a lot of happiness, so many good times. One Thanksgiving we spent together was perfect. We did lots of things. All my life I wanted a girlfriend and I wondered about so many things. Maybe it was chance that we met and if I had not met her I would never have had one.
I can not know what you should do but if you want a partner I hope you get lucky and one comes.
I am an introvert. My mom thought l would never marry. It's amazing l meet anyone. Can't change who l am. Maybe men here can realize some woman are more shy than you are, we are just better at masking.