"Rejection is part of life"

[FeatherBird]

The data from dating/hookup sites supports the claims that women (in general) have an easier time in the "dating market" than men.

It's not perfect data, it's often interpreted incorrectly, and of course the topic attracts a lot of inaccurate claims.
But it supports what was generally expected: women get approached far more often than men (and hence less reason to independently approach men), hypergamy is real, and the 2025 environment isn't stable.

And that there are far more "invisible men" than there are "invisible women". i.e. the "cases of "rejection and diminishment" are mostly men.
To add insult to injury, men in that group are attacked simply for existing in that state, while there's a lot of sympathy (even in this thread /lol), for women in exactly the same situation.

Clearly this is a failure of "The Law of Symmetry" (**). XX difficulties are being treated and being several times more important than XY difficulties.

Given 21st century definitions of "fair treatment" perhaps it makes sense. But it's not very democratic /lol.

(**)
Sadly it's not a law, but it's a useful analysis principle. It's the first test to use in discussions about differences between XX and XY:
1. Why do the readily observed differences exist?
2. Why does society value those differences differently?

I'm not personally a fan of continuing to treat men as disposable in the 21st century.

You're 100% correct when you say men are vilified simply for existing in a state of datelessness.

We get called incels (Which, while technically true, is a term that carries a lot of baggage. To much of the population, the term "incel" is seen as a synonym for "entitled domestic terrorist")

@FeatherBird
This is an idea that you seem highly focused on.

How does focusing on this concept help you?

Why is it important for you to establish that "women face less rejection romantically/sexually?"

The idea that a woman faces less rejection than a man overall (which isn't to say exceptions don't exist) really isn't something I discuss a whole lot on here. It's mainly other posters discussing that topic.

Even if we take the question of which gender has a higher rejection rate overall out of the equation, I can at least speak for myself personally. I have a sky high rejection rate, which has caused me to become terrified of asking out a woman I actually know. This phobia is really holding me back.