Hello,
I'm new here.
It just struck me a couple of days ago that I'm probably on the spectrum.
I've been to see the college doctor for mental health a little over a year ago and Aspergers was mentioned, but I shrugged it off.
I went in for: Depression, irritability, anger issues, social anxiety/general anxiety, no real friends, hating my college course, impulsivity, and fixations..
They thought I might be bipolar, so I had a psych referral.
In the referral I was asked if I find emotions difficult, or if I like routine, do I find people difficult, do I like people etc.
They mentioned Aspergers.
I said 'no I get people... I have a cousin with Aspergers and I'm not like him.
My cousin's case is quite severe, he will probably never live independently, so I compared myself to him and I just dismissed the possibility.
I was told 'You're very intelligent, you're quite eccentric and you do have some issues that I think will be resolved with counselling.
Now I'm realising I probably am on the spectrum, it's quite a strange idea but I can see how it would fit.
I was studying business.
Somehow got through 1 and a half years and after a number of melt downs I gave up, I was miserable for that entire length of time.
I'm now studying Software Development and loving it.
I had to go back to first year (at 21) and so I joined the course late, I've some catching up to do but I'm catching up quite quickly.
I don't socialise well, I'm great if I have something to talk about, or if it's an interesting subject but I can't do small talk and I can't engage if I don't find the topic interesting.
I usually just have facts about the topic, or I pose my opinions as statements made by people with authority..
I just thought it was something I had to work on, and while it is something I have to work on it's not neurotypical. I mean I never knew other people 'got' small talk, that it was natural to some people and others just had to work a little on it.. I really have to work at it.
I haven't really talked to anyone in college yet, other than lecturers, I was fine in the meeting for transferring but not when chatting with my classmates.
There was a thing this week where they went to make up a group chat, I put my name down but hadn't set up whatsapp yet, I heard one of them ask 'who's ---- and I didn't answer.
I felt stupid afterwards but I just got way too worked up about it.
I didn't think I needed a routine, I still don't really think that but I like to have a Cappuccino each morning..
For clothes too - I'm interested in fashion, or at least how it pertains to me.
So I try to look good, but I'm very analytical about it and it's never just 'oh I like it'..
I want to develop a uniform too, I want to dress in the style of Rick Owens, and basically have a go-to uniform with some slight changes, dressing like Jack Dorsey basically.
I hated starting new in college, I didn't want to go in my first day, I was okay after that and then it came to first day of computer labs and I had to drag myself in.. I just felt like faking being sick.
But again, I was fine when I went in.
I'm probably on the high functioning side, or that I am borderline on the spectrum.. or both.
I have grand ambitions and my fixations relate to that.
So I love understanding how businesses work (hence studying business) and I want to be self employed, I want to work in tech... so either by myself or for a start up i believe in.
I'm very creative too so that lends itself to all of that too.
I have high aspirations.. I've read that 'a person who doesn't seek out social engagement has found something far more interesting'.. I don't like other people that much, most people are nice, but they're not interesting, I always feel somewhat alien, it was a derogatory nickname of mine in school because I was 'always on another planet', and I apparently have a big head.
I have somewhat of an eidetic memory - I can recite conversations, events, stuff I've read.
Not in the sense that I can read a textbook and recite it from memory but I've always tested well in school and at college despite never really studying.
I can also sing well and I play guitar.. I pick up songs very quickly too, I love reading into lyrics, and timing of songs, what makes it sound so good etc..
Weirdly enough I was talking to my dad about it, namely about how Bill Gates is probably on the spectrum.
He said he's almost certain he's on the spectrum, 'looking back it explains a hell of a lot about me growing up'.. we've always been told how alike we are, both in looks, mannerisms and whatnot.
He also said I probably have it too.. That was crazy, something I didn't want to speak about with others my dad had still noticed features of it in me, because he was doing his own research into it.
I've even experienced some of the more 'strong' indications, like when I get overwhelmed, or at least when I did in the past.. I've pulled out hair on one occasion and I bang my hands (closed fist, opposite side of thumb) off whatever surface is near me, so I get bruises on the outside of my wrists.
I don't know where to really go from here.
Should I get a professional diagnosis?
Why?
Was it a positive or negative event for you, and what were the implications?
How will my college life/experience change if at all?
This is all pretty overwhelming if I'm being completely honest.
I'm new here.
It just struck me a couple of days ago that I'm probably on the spectrum.
I've been to see the college doctor for mental health a little over a year ago and Aspergers was mentioned, but I shrugged it off.
I went in for: Depression, irritability, anger issues, social anxiety/general anxiety, no real friends, hating my college course, impulsivity, and fixations..
They thought I might be bipolar, so I had a psych referral.
In the referral I was asked if I find emotions difficult, or if I like routine, do I find people difficult, do I like people etc.
They mentioned Aspergers.
I said 'no I get people... I have a cousin with Aspergers and I'm not like him.
My cousin's case is quite severe, he will probably never live independently, so I compared myself to him and I just dismissed the possibility.
I was told 'You're very intelligent, you're quite eccentric and you do have some issues that I think will be resolved with counselling.
Now I'm realising I probably am on the spectrum, it's quite a strange idea but I can see how it would fit.
I was studying business.
Somehow got through 1 and a half years and after a number of melt downs I gave up, I was miserable for that entire length of time.
I'm now studying Software Development and loving it.
I had to go back to first year (at 21) and so I joined the course late, I've some catching up to do but I'm catching up quite quickly.
I don't socialise well, I'm great if I have something to talk about, or if it's an interesting subject but I can't do small talk and I can't engage if I don't find the topic interesting.
I usually just have facts about the topic, or I pose my opinions as statements made by people with authority..
I just thought it was something I had to work on, and while it is something I have to work on it's not neurotypical. I mean I never knew other people 'got' small talk, that it was natural to some people and others just had to work a little on it.. I really have to work at it.
I haven't really talked to anyone in college yet, other than lecturers, I was fine in the meeting for transferring but not when chatting with my classmates.
There was a thing this week where they went to make up a group chat, I put my name down but hadn't set up whatsapp yet, I heard one of them ask 'who's ---- and I didn't answer.
I felt stupid afterwards but I just got way too worked up about it.
I didn't think I needed a routine, I still don't really think that but I like to have a Cappuccino each morning..
For clothes too - I'm interested in fashion, or at least how it pertains to me.
So I try to look good, but I'm very analytical about it and it's never just 'oh I like it'..
I want to develop a uniform too, I want to dress in the style of Rick Owens, and basically have a go-to uniform with some slight changes, dressing like Jack Dorsey basically.
I hated starting new in college, I didn't want to go in my first day, I was okay after that and then it came to first day of computer labs and I had to drag myself in.. I just felt like faking being sick.
But again, I was fine when I went in.
I'm probably on the high functioning side, or that I am borderline on the spectrum.. or both.
I have grand ambitions and my fixations relate to that.
So I love understanding how businesses work (hence studying business) and I want to be self employed, I want to work in tech... so either by myself or for a start up i believe in.
I'm very creative too so that lends itself to all of that too.
I have high aspirations.. I've read that 'a person who doesn't seek out social engagement has found something far more interesting'.. I don't like other people that much, most people are nice, but they're not interesting, I always feel somewhat alien, it was a derogatory nickname of mine in school because I was 'always on another planet', and I apparently have a big head.
I have somewhat of an eidetic memory - I can recite conversations, events, stuff I've read.
Not in the sense that I can read a textbook and recite it from memory but I've always tested well in school and at college despite never really studying.
I can also sing well and I play guitar.. I pick up songs very quickly too, I love reading into lyrics, and timing of songs, what makes it sound so good etc..
Weirdly enough I was talking to my dad about it, namely about how Bill Gates is probably on the spectrum.
He said he's almost certain he's on the spectrum, 'looking back it explains a hell of a lot about me growing up'.. we've always been told how alike we are, both in looks, mannerisms and whatnot.
He also said I probably have it too.. That was crazy, something I didn't want to speak about with others my dad had still noticed features of it in me, because he was doing his own research into it.
I've even experienced some of the more 'strong' indications, like when I get overwhelmed, or at least when I did in the past.. I've pulled out hair on one occasion and I bang my hands (closed fist, opposite side of thumb) off whatever surface is near me, so I get bruises on the outside of my wrists.
I don't know where to really go from here.
Should I get a professional diagnosis?
Why?
Was it a positive or negative event for you, and what were the implications?
How will my college life/experience change if at all?
This is all pretty overwhelming if I'm being completely honest.