Hello Aspies!
I have aut nos and PDD so it's a bit different but I had an aspie friend who confuses me and maybe you can help clarify.
It is what everyone else says who comes on here. he was a very close friend at one time. Phone call 5 hours a day, blah blah.........
He let me stay at his place when I had no where to go. Always helpful and offering food, etc.
After accident, if I email him, it is like 5 days till he replies.
When I lived with him, he responds to his other friends immediately.
Let me say he is still in fake mode and kind of wonder if he has aspergers but not really looking into it. But he is straight up aspie. He is so rigid in his schdule I was not allowed to talk to him before work. After work, collapose on couch with 2 glasses wine (literally measures), him clexa and ambien.
Weekends spent on couch, never moving. There is an indentation on the couch.
But always promises-----we will do that next weekened. Not today. can't now.....
All windows blocked off from the sun.
When I knew him, he had no friends so he clung to me. When he got on clexa he got a few friends, but very narrow existence. He is "nice" but does not like people much.
So, anyway, we were close in all that nightmare, but now he seems to not know I exist. Here are a few questions I have if anyone could answer as many as they see fit or want!
1. Is this aspie Outof Sight Out of Mind?
2. I cannot undersand non verbal but he will never discuss it. If I try he gets VERY anxious and says NO NO! I ca't do this now!!!! So I can never ask.
3. Next email, in about two weeks, will be all "SO GLAD TO HEAR FROM YOU! I was so worried! How can I help???" etc. He pours it on thick when he responds. Why does he do this when I could say I am bleeding to death and have no response for weeks.
4. What happens to Aspies who fake NT all their life and then retire? Do they collapse in burnout or regain life?
My only thoughts are that he is spending a lot more time working on passing as NT to the friends he has from work who he emails and texts all the time. He is trying so hard to pass as NT. He is not even like he was when I met him.
THANK YOU, Aspie friends!
I have aut nos and PDD so it's a bit different but I had an aspie friend who confuses me and maybe you can help clarify.
It is what everyone else says who comes on here. he was a very close friend at one time. Phone call 5 hours a day, blah blah.........
He let me stay at his place when I had no where to go. Always helpful and offering food, etc.
After accident, if I email him, it is like 5 days till he replies.
When I lived with him, he responds to his other friends immediately.
Let me say he is still in fake mode and kind of wonder if he has aspergers but not really looking into it. But he is straight up aspie. He is so rigid in his schdule I was not allowed to talk to him before work. After work, collapose on couch with 2 glasses wine (literally measures), him clexa and ambien.
Weekends spent on couch, never moving. There is an indentation on the couch.
But always promises-----we will do that next weekened. Not today. can't now.....
All windows blocked off from the sun.
When I knew him, he had no friends so he clung to me. When he got on clexa he got a few friends, but very narrow existence. He is "nice" but does not like people much.
So, anyway, we were close in all that nightmare, but now he seems to not know I exist. Here are a few questions I have if anyone could answer as many as they see fit or want!
1. Is this aspie Outof Sight Out of Mind?
2. I cannot undersand non verbal but he will never discuss it. If I try he gets VERY anxious and says NO NO! I ca't do this now!!!! So I can never ask.
3. Next email, in about two weeks, will be all "SO GLAD TO HEAR FROM YOU! I was so worried! How can I help???" etc. He pours it on thick when he responds. Why does he do this when I could say I am bleeding to death and have no response for weeks.
4. What happens to Aspies who fake NT all their life and then retire? Do they collapse in burnout or regain life?
My only thoughts are that he is spending a lot more time working on passing as NT to the friends he has from work who he emails and texts all the time. He is trying so hard to pass as NT. He is not even like he was when I met him.
THANK YOU, Aspie friends!