** PleasE_JudgE_My_ShorT_DatinG_ProfilE_And_Final PicS **

[kris]

Yer you got that last part right (in spite of the acknowledged difficulties women would have too). For me I just see aspie traits in women (like apparently so many things) as being sexy and seeing as how you've got that gorgeous redhead (or is it light brown?) nice-girl look about you I'd imagine you'd get plenty of offers. I may be less intimidated by aspie girls, but it doesn't mean that they too wouldn't see me (not that I do it really often) as being offensive through misinterpreting something I've said like yesterday. Typically I only compliment people if it's genuine and I try as hard as I can to conceal anything which I believe might be offensive, but it doesn't guarantee that things won't be said from time to time and if I work too hard on filtering them, there's too little left of 'me' in what I say or do, which'd probably depress me more.

Aw thank you! (It's light brown dyed red with henna for the record)... and yes, I had no problem getting "offers" (which is strange to me now because I was so ostracized growing up)... but my naivete has gotten me into heaps of trouble with dating.

Anyhoo, for what it's worth, I think honesty is the best option..and if there's a misunderstanding, important to try and figure it out and not let it get to you when it happens.. take a step back and look at it as life experience. It sucks sometimes, that "learning the hard way"... but I sort of figure that we might as well embrace what we can't change about ourselves.

And totally second everything NTgirl4276 said about that crossing off the list bit.. I know it doesn't feel like it when you're single and lonely, but it truly is better to be single than to be in a bad relationship.

 

[Hopeless_Aspie_Guy]

Whereas traditional dating can take weeks or months to find out that a couple isn't fundamentally compatible,

If online dating didn't exist then I'd be screwed, thank god for facebook making internet socializing (and eventually online dating apparently the most common way people meet). God bless the internet...may it bring the online dating up (just as long as someone takes the god-damn porn sites down).

So, instead of seeing it as "Oh man, another woman who's not into me," how about, "Whew, there's another one I can cross off the list" as you get closer and closer to narrowing it down and finding someone compatible?

Uhu thats true, in my more positive frame of mind I also just chalk it down to additional experience in a field I didn't belong in (and why...well thats another story for another thread queued for the future) but of which I'm hanging onto and trying to make the best of.

 

[Tia Maria]

Grumpy Cat, I thought I saw a partial post from you but now can't find it - ??? Anyway., I agree (with your disagree to my disagree) regarding the 'car stuff'. I just looked at the OP's comments about 'cars' whereas I had only QUICKLY & lightly skimmed it before & just took away the idea that The Hopeless Aspie Guy is into & loves cars, which is fine & something about very relevant about him. BUT after reading it again I see AGREE, it is not just describing his love of cars & driving but more about currently having a nice car .... which may catch the attention of someone who wants a guy with money &/or a nice car (aka a 'gold digger'! LOL!) &/or someone who likes people based on 'stuff', & none of that is good. SO GOOD POINT GC!! & I agree, rewrite that section or remove it.