Parents

[TotodilePika]

Are there people on here who have parents who have Autism or AS???? Both of my parents have something, we don't know what my mom has. My dad has the same thing that I have, PDD. My dad only found out last year that he has PDD, my grandma and aunt though he had AS but he doesn't.

 

[Droopy]

Mine don't have anything although I would say that they are not very social and I do see some traits in them.

 

[Leiservampir]

Stepdad has AS, worse than me.
Mum has traits, one of ther sisters has traits, one of her brothers has traits, that brother's son has AS, my nan has traits...
I think it stems from my mum's mum's side

 

[jaws]

Nothing confirmed. My mom seems to think she has traits here and there, but she passes as very normal on all tests and seems very social to me...she's just been depressed lately and withdrawn because of that...I've told her that I think a lot of it has to do with raising me, she sort of had to learn the language of AS. I would say my dad might only because he NEVER calls or writes me, but is always upset that I don't stay in touch. I explain to him constantly, I'll answer the phone and reply...I just rarely think to call and then we can probably all think things like...what if he's busy, or is that the new number, what if someone else answers, etc...I often wonder if him thinking the same things is why we don't stay in touch.

 

[Droopy]

think things like...what if he's busy, or is that the new number, what if someone else answers, etc...I often wonder if him thinking the same things is why we don't stay in touch.

That could possibly be the reason for the communication breakdown between you both.

 

[superboyian]

Its only my dad that is on the spectrum, but I don't get to see him much though.

 

[Kodak]

Dad is on the spectrum.
Younger cousin has been diagnosed with Autism.
And there is a ''Great Aunt'' that is theorised as being on the spectrum as well.

 

[Amyre?s mom]

Hello All-

My son was diagnosed a wk and half ago. (AS) He is only 10. It bothers me... all he wants is to be friends with his classmates.
The school was concern about his behavior. He would cry a lot. He would burt out answers in class. I just thought it was immaturity thing. Finally he was evaluated. The first doctor told me he was ADHD wanted to give him meds. I told him “no”. Than he still continue to have problems with his social skills. He was sent for a pediatric neurodevelopment consultation. She diagnosed him with AS.

 

[Amyre?s mom]

:rolleyes2:Hello

 

[142857]

When I was in my late teens I remember my mother telling me that I had started speaking very late. Apparently there was a history of this on her father's side of the family. My guess is that it stems from my mother's father's father, who apparenly was an "out-of-towner" who married a local girl and they had a few kids, then he promptly disappeared. Nobody really knew anything about him, where he came from or where he went. I remember speaking to one of the ladies on that side of the family, she was telling me about her brother who was even taller than me but very socially withdrawn.

My mother dropped her brother on his head when he was a baby, and almost killed him. She lived with the intense guilt of that all her life, assumed that his various problems were related to the head trauma. I look at him now in the context of high functioning autism, although to be honest he wasn't all that high functioning. Then again, neither am I.

My father showed several aspie traits, but there is no smoking gun. Nobody left alive knows what he was like as a very young child. He had few friends, but that was understandable not necessarily in terms of social dysfunction but because he was a most unpleasant and (at times) disturbing person. I have resigned myself to the fact that I will probably never know for sure about my father.

 

[142857]

Hello All-

My son was diagnosed a wk and half ago. (AS) He is only 10. It bothers me... all he wants is to be friends with his classmates.
The school was concern about his behavior. He would cry a lot. He would burt out answers in class. I just thought it was immaturity thing. Finally he was evaluated. The first doctor told me he was ADHD wanted to give him meds. I told him “no”. Than he still continue to have problems with his social skills. He was sent for a pediatric neurodevelopment consultation. She diagnosed him with AS.

My son is 5 years old. He shows very obvious signs of ADHD as well, but given the family history and a number of other traits I suspect Aspergers Syndrome. He is like your son, he wants to be friends with every kid he meets, but he thinks that tearing around at high speed and yelling loud enough to wake the dead is the best way to go about it.

Please keep us up to date with your son's progress. Do you know if they treat the symptoms of ADHD in aspie kids with the same drugs that they treat ADHD in neurotypical kids?

 

[Amyre?s mom]

Am not sure about treatment. My son don’t take meds. The doctor told me that there is no med for aspie. I was reading on other website(s) that kids that was diagnosed with Aspies & Adhd would take meds for adhd. some had side effects. I just set up an IEP for this school year. When was your son diagnosed? This is all new to me. There aren’t many support groups where I live. We do have appointment this Tuesday where they only work with kids with Aspie. I call my insurance to get that info.

 

[142857]

Am not sure about treatment. My son don’t take meds. The doctor told me that there is no med for aspie. I was reading on other website(s) that kids that was diagnosed with Aspies & Adhd would take meds for adhd. some had side effects. I just set up an IEP for this school year. When was your son diagnosed? This is all new to me. There aren’t many support groups where I live. We do have appointment this Tuesday where they only work with kids with Aspie. I call my insurance to get that info.

Thanks for the reply. I worry about the possible side effects of using ADHD meds to treat a kid who shows signs of ADHD due to aspergers.

My son is not diagosed, we live in Indonesia (I am Australian) so it isn't practical for a number of reasons. Ritalin is one of the few drugs you need a prescription for here, and it is just a matter of going to the doctor and asking for a prescription. But I have no plans to do that. My son is doing a lot better than I was at his age, though he still has his challenges and his struggles. I guess I really notice his issues because I had/have them myself - I imagine that an NT parent might have more trouble relating to what an aspie kid is going through. It seems there are a few parents of aspie kids on this forum so I will kick off a thread so we can share ideas and information.

How is your son's short term memory? Does he start doing something, get confused, then completely forget what he started out to do? Does he constantly lose or misplace things? Does he have obsessions (my son is obsessed with car crashes, airplane crashes, truck crashes....)? Is he a "little professor", using words and phrases that seem too advanced for his age, speaking very formally?

 

[Amyre?s mom]

I live in New Jersey ( USA) they try to stay away from Ritalin over here. You are so right I have no clue to what he is going through. At first I just through is was immaturity. I would say this just with my son when he was in Pre-k just the basic crying. I just figure he didn’t want me to leave him at school. Now he is going to 5th grade. He really don’t have any friends. He told me they call him “nerd”. It breaks my heart. He told me wanted to be normal... so he is having a little rough time right now, someday are best than other ( when he is at school). He”s short term memory he has a problem with that. Sometimes when he gets upset he can really express his self. I have to tell him to calm down then he will start talking. He loves to draw, play the wii. science like dinosaurs, planets. He really say his obsession is with drawing. He love to draw cartoon characters. First he was in love with scooby- doo than spiderman toy story’s woody and buzz. now he goes crazy over sonic. He can just look a picture and draw it. He is very visual

 

[142857]

^ In some ways I think it is a negative that I can relate to what he is going through, with behaviours that we probably should be doing something about helping him with, I just think "that's okay, I was worse at his age".

It is tough being your son's age and finding it so hard just to fit in and make friends. He has the advantage that you care about him deeply and that you will make allowances for the struggles that he is going through. I was simply made to believe that it was all my fault, and I'm sure that almost every other aspie of my age or thereabouts will tell you the same thing.

 

[Kit]

My dad has traits and the only traits my mom has is senstivity to light and she thinks the TV is too loud when it's not and she has taken my jokes too seriously.

 

[KinksFan]

Both of my parents are NT, as far as I'm concerned. They wanted me to turn out, to be like them, but God had other plans,, for me.

 

[superboyian]

Both of my parents are NT, as far as I'm concerned. They wanted me to turn out, to be like them, but God had other plans,, for me.

I've noticed alot of parents, mostly fathers want their sons/daughters to fit into the world and want them to be perfectly normal, but having autism is something you can't really change.
Imo, being unique is awesome in so many ways and actually as a matter of fact don't get taken advantage as much plus I would find it comfortable being this way.

 

[CJinherPJs]

I think my Dad has traits, he is like me in a number of ways and I always felt he related to my social difficulties better than my Mum did. Mum is very much NT as far as I know.

 

[AidansMommy]

:rolleyes2:Hello

Hiya..I'm a parent to one child with PDD-NOS and one with ADD and ODD. I'm bipolar and (possibly) ADD/ADHD. No connection to AS though or PDD that I know of in my family. I've heard that the AS/PDD gene comes from the male side, however.