Older Dad with High Functioning Young Son

[Culchie]

Hello everyone. Thanks for letting me be a part of your community. I hope I can learn more and be made aware of what I can possibly expect in the future of my son. We live in a mostly rural area, and help with this subject is lacking. Hope everyone has a great weekend.

 

[Rodafina]

Welcome to the forum, @Culchie. I hope you have a good experience here. Let us know if you have any questions as you figure things out.

 

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[FayetheADHDsquirrel]

Welcome!

 

[Mary Terry]

Welcome! I'm glad you found the forum. Much information and help are available here.

 

[Atrapa Almas]

Hello everyone. Thanks for letting me be a part of your community. I hope I can learn more and be made aware of what I can possibly expect in the future of my son. We live in a mostly rural area, and help with this subject is lacking. Hope everyone has a great weekend.

Hello Culchie, and wellcome.

There is much difference from an autistic person to other autistic person. One common thing that all autists person share is that autism is a neurodevelopment issue, some "normal childs" features are not "yet" developed on autists childs. They may be partially developed as your child grow. If he is very intelligent, he will figure out (and/or) learn some strategies to better cope with those "features" lacking.

Many "high functioning" autists may appear to be almost normal when they are adults just by the procces of growing, learning, trying. Nowadays there are many autism testimonies, books, forums to help him and you a better understanding.

There are quite big chances that autism traits are present in your child bloodline, so asking about some "out of the normal" family members childhoods may help a lot.

The problem most autisms people face is trauma due to family/friends rejecting them, not understanding them, forcing them to be "more normal" and general lack of love. If you can solve that in your childs live, he will do much better.

Being accepted and loved as we actually are make wonders.

 

[velociraptor]

what I can possibly expect in the future of my son

Welcome, and you can expect awesomeness, just in a different flavour than others.

 

[Aspychata]

Welcome to the site, you may discover your own ways to work with your son. Your son is lucky to have a father who is reaching out in this community.

 

[Crossbreed]

Hello & welcome @Culchie!

 

[RemyZee]

welcome! It is important for us autistics as we are growing up to hear that we HAVE a future and that if we are facing challenges as young people they often work themselves out when we reach adulthood. Lots of us actually wind up appreciating our autism and embracing it, but for me what I would have appreciated as a young person was a perception that I could make it, that things could be better in adulthood. this is an experience I hear from lots of autistics: as youth we barely hold it together, only to go on and thrive if, given the chance.

 

[pek73]

hello and welcome Culchie, I found this pod cast episode helpful in explaining what autism is versus the typical view point that explains how people see them. the guest is an autistic phycologist. IFS and Autism with Sarah Bergenfield - Part 1 I have no doubt you son can thrive. he doesn't need to "fix" anything to get through life, he just may need to make adjustments to get the most out of it. just my 2 cents
I like this one too

 

[Shevek]

I wish my dad had tried to explain things from a logical perspective. I was more interested in souped-up cars than he was, but he never pointed out his aversion was because they needed more repairs and maintenance.