Kerri Marsh
Active Member
Hello, I first want to apologize for any ignorance or a lack of education on this topic, I hope to not offend anyone and I am trying to just get some help and gain knowledge. I have done some of my own research on this topic but I don't want to make assumptions although I guess I am on this matter.
I will try to keep it short. I have been dating a man for almost 2 months. He is by far one of the most interesting and intriguing man I have ever met. He has told me in a conversation we were having that he does not understand other peoples emotions. I tried to delve into this with him but it was very difficult to make sense of what he was saying. He uses very elaborate language and speaks very philosophical. He explained that he would need me to explain my emotions to him otherwise he would not get it.
Also said he does not feel he feels the same way as other people do, he explained it that he only feels one emotion, that he can't differentiate between emotions such as being sad and angry or happy for all of those emotions he says he feels the same. He explained that sometimes he only knows he is angry based on his physical reactions such as Jaw clenching for anger. He says he can feel empathy and that he does fall in love but I'm not sure if it's in the same way someone else would.
In conversation he does seem to talk a lot about himself and goes into detail about what he did for the day. He does not typically use the phone to call me it's mostly through text messaging we only spoke once on the phone when we had an issue over miscommunication. He was very matter of fact but also willing to try and understand why I was upset. He has told me that he's good in relationships he has learned what to do and what not to do. He says he has trouble relating to anyone that he feels no one feels the way he does and has a hard time connecting with people although he says he has connected with me. He does seem distant in thought when we are having conversations. He is affectionate, always holds my hand, has his arm around me or gives me random kisses.
But this is where my ignorance comes in, are these signs of Aspergers? I am not trying to diagnose him but I am just trying to understand. I don't feel comfortable yet just out right asking him I do not want to offend him although I have this feeling it would not offend him he is extremely straightforward I should add. He is brutally honest and speaks everything that is on his mind including that he thinks about violence and sex all the time but can control his impulses, that he just feeds off of the adrenaline.
I am confused and I do not know how to go forward with this relationship. Yes I have my concerns but he is a good man, he is funny and intelligent and I have a very good time with him and a connection. Any input would be greatly appreciated.
I will try to keep it short. I have been dating a man for almost 2 months. He is by far one of the most interesting and intriguing man I have ever met. He has told me in a conversation we were having that he does not understand other peoples emotions. I tried to delve into this with him but it was very difficult to make sense of what he was saying. He uses very elaborate language and speaks very philosophical. He explained that he would need me to explain my emotions to him otherwise he would not get it.
Also said he does not feel he feels the same way as other people do, he explained it that he only feels one emotion, that he can't differentiate between emotions such as being sad and angry or happy for all of those emotions he says he feels the same. He explained that sometimes he only knows he is angry based on his physical reactions such as Jaw clenching for anger. He says he can feel empathy and that he does fall in love but I'm not sure if it's in the same way someone else would.
In conversation he does seem to talk a lot about himself and goes into detail about what he did for the day. He does not typically use the phone to call me it's mostly through text messaging we only spoke once on the phone when we had an issue over miscommunication. He was very matter of fact but also willing to try and understand why I was upset. He has told me that he's good in relationships he has learned what to do and what not to do. He says he has trouble relating to anyone that he feels no one feels the way he does and has a hard time connecting with people although he says he has connected with me. He does seem distant in thought when we are having conversations. He is affectionate, always holds my hand, has his arm around me or gives me random kisses.
But this is where my ignorance comes in, are these signs of Aspergers? I am not trying to diagnose him but I am just trying to understand. I don't feel comfortable yet just out right asking him I do not want to offend him although I have this feeling it would not offend him he is extremely straightforward I should add. He is brutally honest and speaks everything that is on his mind including that he thinks about violence and sex all the time but can control his impulses, that he just feeds off of the adrenaline.
I am confused and I do not know how to go forward with this relationship. Yes I have my concerns but he is a good man, he is funny and intelligent and I have a very good time with him and a connection. Any input would be greatly appreciated.
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