SimplyWandering
Well-Known Member
Here is where the story starts...
My roommate is in a Masters degree program for Psychology and happens to be doing her internship at the same company I get my supports from , including a day program. About a month ago she got transferred to my location and I ran in to her during a program and she was surprised, as she didn’t know I was in the day program.
She later sat down with me and told me I needed to let her know if I was going to be there so she could make arrangements to not be a part of the class, I said I would try.
1 week later I went and hadn’t even thought about messaging her, didn’t even come to mind, and she was there and was visibly annoyed (I wasn’t sure why until she told me) and said “you told me you would tell me if you were coming,” leaving pissed.
This made me really annoyed and obsessive, so I went to the head of day program and said you know I am roommates with her, what can I say that will make this run smoothly? At which point she asked me if I could go to the other location , umm I have my therapy HERE... so no.
She told me she is working here, so you’ll just have to work it out... with an attitude.
Fast forward to my appointment with my therapist and she tells me that my roommate cannot impede my mental health recovery or wellness.
I said it was not my responsibility to let my roommate know where I was going to be, when I was going to be , I have enough stuff to remember and figure out without having to deal with that. I asked my therapist not to chat with her as it would disrupt my home life.
So everything leaked to my roommate And apparently her superior had a stern chat with her...
Now today when I was asking my roommate why she was not talking to me or just saying hi and she got huffy and said I only asked one thing of you, to make sure to let me know when you would be at a session in the day program. I told her my therapist said it was not my responsibility, nor correct to ask me to do so. I apologized for the situation in hopes of mending it. (I had no idea it would come back to her)
She got all annoyed and threatened “If you ruin this for me and I am not successful at this internship, I will make your life a living hell.” Then she said nothing else.
How do I react to this and help the situation move forward? I don’t even know if I should talk to my therapist about this or if it would just be more problematic.
I have been consistently obsessing over this since it happened earlier.
Help is appreciated.
TLDR: Roommate is angry because she thinks I ruined her internship chances and believes as a roommate it is my responsibility to let her know when I am at a day program
My roommate is in a Masters degree program for Psychology and happens to be doing her internship at the same company I get my supports from , including a day program. About a month ago she got transferred to my location and I ran in to her during a program and she was surprised, as she didn’t know I was in the day program.
She later sat down with me and told me I needed to let her know if I was going to be there so she could make arrangements to not be a part of the class, I said I would try.
1 week later I went and hadn’t even thought about messaging her, didn’t even come to mind, and she was there and was visibly annoyed (I wasn’t sure why until she told me) and said “you told me you would tell me if you were coming,” leaving pissed.
This made me really annoyed and obsessive, so I went to the head of day program and said you know I am roommates with her, what can I say that will make this run smoothly? At which point she asked me if I could go to the other location , umm I have my therapy HERE... so no.
She told me she is working here, so you’ll just have to work it out... with an attitude.
Fast forward to my appointment with my therapist and she tells me that my roommate cannot impede my mental health recovery or wellness.
I said it was not my responsibility to let my roommate know where I was going to be, when I was going to be , I have enough stuff to remember and figure out without having to deal with that. I asked my therapist not to chat with her as it would disrupt my home life.
So everything leaked to my roommate And apparently her superior had a stern chat with her...
Now today when I was asking my roommate why she was not talking to me or just saying hi and she got huffy and said I only asked one thing of you, to make sure to let me know when you would be at a session in the day program. I told her my therapist said it was not my responsibility, nor correct to ask me to do so. I apologized for the situation in hopes of mending it. (I had no idea it would come back to her)
She got all annoyed and threatened “If you ruin this for me and I am not successful at this internship, I will make your life a living hell.” Then she said nothing else.
How do I react to this and help the situation move forward? I don’t even know if I should talk to my therapist about this or if it would just be more problematic.
I have been consistently obsessing over this since it happened earlier.
Help is appreciated.
TLDR: Roommate is angry because she thinks I ruined her internship chances and believes as a roommate it is my responsibility to let her know when I am at a day program
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