I am at my wits end with this and need help. I'm a divorced man and NT (as far as I know) and pretty sure one or two of my 3 kids (two boys 24 and 21) are high functioning autistic. Our 20 year marriage ended 5 years ago as I could not endure the loneliness a minute longer. People asked over the years if our oldest son was autistic (as he showed a number of signs) but we brushed it off because the only image of autism we had was Rainman. Now years later I am wondering if he may be the clue to what caused so many marital challenges over the years and the mind crushing loneliness I endured with their mother. Only recently have I stumbled onto articles describing High Functioning Autism in women. A lot of this describes my ex-wife and is the only thing that seems to give answers. If true, it may also shed light on the possibility this has affected one or both of our sons. Can people tell me what high functioning autism might look like in a woman and in a marriage to that woman?