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My Parter thinks I don't know anything about him

glasgowryan

glasgowryan

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Hi

I am currently undergoing diagnosis.

At my most recent appointment, I was asked a few questions however I felt awkward answering them with my partner being in the room which made him feel like I didn't know very much about him.

The questions were relating to his hobbies etc.

How should I go forward from this and make sure he knows I do know loads about him?
 
Be honest, tell him that is wasn't because you didn't know but, because you didn't like and, weren't comfortable being asked about him while he was in the room.

You might also want to write down his hobbies, interests, favorite foods and, other things you know about him so that, after you explain what happened at the appointment, you can give him the list as confirmation that you do know a lot about him.
 
I try to keep track of a few little details and try to act on them occasionally. For example my guy likes candy a lot but hates strawberry flavored stuff, so if I happen to be out and see some cherry flavored candy I'll buy him some. Shows that I listen to what he likes and that I think about him when we're not together. It's been a very popular strategy!
 
Be glad you're not one of us stalker Aspies that can name exactly what they like and the rate at which they consume it. :p
I find that makes them about as uncomfortable as knowing nothing about them.
 
Oh, you mean like my husband, he loves cheese and, will eat a 4 oz block of any smoked cheese in 4 minutes because smoked cheese is is absolute favorite. It takes him 32 seconds to chug a 14 oz glass of cold milk. He will sleep for exactly 2 hrs and 15 minutes, then get up to use the restroom, be awake for 28 to 30 minutes, then be snoring again. (and we have separate bedrooms but, I still know this.)

I annoy him horribly with all of the "nit picky" details I know about him but, he laughs and is good humored about it.
 
Thanks for all your input. I especially like the first suggestion of writing a list to show him I know his interests etc.
 
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