I have loved my Aspie Boyfriend (high functioning) for almost 2 years and it has been on and off again. I can tell he adores me a lot. A couple of times I figured out that he has been out with other women and he denied and denied but I am intuitive and just knew. He actually passed an STI on to me which was confirmation. I was hurt but I will be okay and have let him know that I am not into being with him if he is dating others. Obviously the risk to my mental health and my physical health is not worth it.
My issue is that I am concerned about him incredibly. We had a heart to heart and he said he just wants to have fun. He is 63, is a senior executive, never married and has no children. He says women didn't want him when he was in his 20s 30s 40s or 50s but they want him now. He is obsessed with online dating and he is on his computer every night flirting with women. From the way it sounds, he wants to even the score from his earlier days. I know he has been hurt over and over and over. He opened up to me about the heartache and the pain and how his only want in life was to have a wife and children and its the only thing he never got.
I honestly feel so sad for him because I feel he thinks he in not lovable or maybe he is terribly afraid of being hurt once again. We had something so special and he still communicates with me a lot but it feels like he is out of control in his life. In addition I made it clear to him that it is totally irresponsible to pass on STI's knowingly to other women. He won't talk about that part at all. This is like his dirty little secret. He lies to women about wanting a relationship with them so he gets to sleep with them but he has no intention of having a relationship with them and is only in it for his own gratification...and then he moves on with another woman.
Shall I just leave it alone or is there anything I can do to help him as a friend. I care about him obviously but am moving on.
My issue is that I am concerned about him incredibly. We had a heart to heart and he said he just wants to have fun. He is 63, is a senior executive, never married and has no children. He says women didn't want him when he was in his 20s 30s 40s or 50s but they want him now. He is obsessed with online dating and he is on his computer every night flirting with women. From the way it sounds, he wants to even the score from his earlier days. I know he has been hurt over and over and over. He opened up to me about the heartache and the pain and how his only want in life was to have a wife and children and its the only thing he never got.
I honestly feel so sad for him because I feel he thinks he in not lovable or maybe he is terribly afraid of being hurt once again. We had something so special and he still communicates with me a lot but it feels like he is out of control in his life. In addition I made it clear to him that it is totally irresponsible to pass on STI's knowingly to other women. He won't talk about that part at all. This is like his dirty little secret. He lies to women about wanting a relationship with them so he gets to sleep with them but he has no intention of having a relationship with them and is only in it for his own gratification...and then he moves on with another woman.
Shall I just leave it alone or is there anything I can do to help him as a friend. I care about him obviously but am moving on.
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