Moving, brother might move with us?

[worriedsis]

My husband and I are moving. My brother lives at home with my parents still. My sister lives quite a ways away from us and my other sister has a baby. I love my brother and I feel horrible for being worried about him living with us. However, my husband and I are planning on buying a home (probably a 3/3) and we have no children. I know this makes me a horrible sister, but I worry about what will happen when my parents are gone. My brother works, and works hard, but does not make enough to live on his own. He's a wonderful man, but he is an Aspie. I mean, he's never had a girlfriend and the likelihood is that he will live at home for awhile. He is in his early 30s. I know I'm maybe just writing this to assuage my own guilt, but I don't want him to live with us. I know I can't change the way he is, I love him, but I'm not ready to have him live with us. My husband and I decided not to have children ourselves because they are not for us. If my brother had no where else to go, I guess we would take him in, but I want him to be independent and I want to be independent as well.

Thank you for listening to me. It's a horrible way to feel, but I had to express it somewhere.

 

[Bay]

You obviously care about your brother, and it is natural to worry about those you care for, when they face adversity. But it is also normal in our culture for committed couples to live without other adult family members in the household, although sometimes circumstances dictate otherwise. I don't think you need to feel guilty for the way you feel. You may eventually take him in, but it has not come to that yet.