Andrew_Collins
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I am an older Aspie so I can rember the days before texting,mobiles and internet. I can also rember before we had a phone. We mostly used the phone box, or if it was emergency we would go to a neighbor with some money to use phone.
I remember these days as more social, we knew everyone on our road and most of the shop keepers and most of the kids from my class (other boys anyway) would call for each other or have earning meal at each others house, in the town i grew up in, there were arguments, but adults looked out for kids, as they knew your mum or used to work with your dad. It was a town of 50. 000 in North England. If you were bored there were at least five or six people you could call on to hang out with.
When i got older and didn't have many friends I had pen pals from music magazines, and some from other countries,sometimes i would answer ads and for a brief period i used a phone chatline.
Being old fashioned i was reluctant to get a mobile phone and only got one finally in 2006 out of necessity. I first saw the internet in 1999 aged 28, and was amazed by emails I couldn't believe my letter was instantly available. I would just use the internet for emails, reading the paper ( and of course porn).
However from mid 2007, this was when i really got into the internet, I discovered YouTube and it was amazing to me, At first I was loving being able to see all these interviews of my favorite bands, all the pop songs i wanted, it was quite amazing. The following year i was diagnosed with AS and my only source of information was You Tube Vloggers and the net, so i was grateful for that, Later a friend started talking to me about conspiracy theories. And i spent a lot of time reasearching different subjects and it was the biggest education ever,as I had always felt things were not right in society. But I that isn't what this thread is about.
I heard about Facebook , so at the end of 2008 i made an account, soon after an old friend got in touch who id fallen out with 12 years previously, as i was iscolated, i forgave and forgot, but without going into detail, this person continued to cause more trouble for me on and off for the next 5 years. Now I've finally got rid of him. Another old friend that id lost touch with to was acting strangely and making me feel uncomfortable and yet another who I shared a flat with when at university got in touch but didn't say anything!!!! As it made me feel uncomfortable, i closed the account after just 3 weeks as i found myself feeling anxious about it and thinking about it when i was going about my everyday
business.
Then just this year out of sheer boredom and isolation I decided to open a new FB account. I had fond memories of my school time i mentioned previously, and was interested to see how everyone had aged.however six people didn't accept my friend invite, two family members upset me on it and two other girls who I knew during my collage days got in touch , but one didn't reply much and the other was annoying me with her inane drivel. I went on a small holiday and posted some pictures of what i was doing, and I got a few jealous quips from her. There was a girl from school who i wasn't friends with back then but knew me, i enjoyed talking too as she knew everyone i knew but she seems to be on FB all the time and even posted a picture of the back of her head on it. Noone had much to say really, and I found myself feeling uncomfortable again. I spoke to another old friend from school who had moved to New Zealand, but he seemed to be bragging all the time and i felt like he was in competition with me. Plus I saw some estranged family members on there and another family member got upset and jealous that i even mentioned these other people...During this second episode i once again began to feel very uncomfortable with it and found myself feeling depressed after spending too much time on it, so i decided to close it yet again. Also it was quite difficult to close...... I gave my email address to 3 girls i knew, but just 2 emailed then that fizzled away. Soon after i felt a lot better again .
Also ive notice a few people I've got friendly with over the last 5 years have asked me "Are you on Facebook?" no i said,, but we can text... I met a girl in a bar in manchester with her boyfriend 3 years ago who asked me this question, we all seemed to get along and exchanged phone numbers, we never met face to face again and whenever i called her there was no answer but she would text back soon after, whenever she called me she was drunk, and quite intense, i got to know her quite well just by text, she asked me repeatedly if i was on Facebook . In the end we had a silly disagreement after aranging to meet in Manchester over the christmas holidays, and i received aloud of abuse by text. I found the whole experience stupid and ridiculous .
I don't know if I'm just old fashioned but i prefer chatting face to face, you can pick up more the energy of a person face to face, but when i go outside all i see is people glued to their phones or music, it seemed modern technology has made our socializing even worse. Don't get me wrong I'm grateful for online banking, booking things and information, but I'm beginning to think i should limit my internet use as its making me depressed.
Do you prefer to communicate with social media? and texting? Because i hate texting but i only do it because its cheaper. Also my experience on Facebook has destroyed my memories or a happy period in my life. I think many people say and behave online diffrently than they would face to face. Tell me what do you think? I miss the old days.
. What do you think? If your older like me you will see the difference in life. Do you think modern communication methods are good or annoying? Do you use Facebook? if so do you enjoy it. Can you imagine living without all this?
Below is a well known video about what I'm talking about, plus a recent article from the Daily Mail about an elderly woman who felt depressed living in the modern age of communication.
Retired teacher, 89, ends her life at Swiss euthanasia clinic | Mail Online
I remember these days as more social, we knew everyone on our road and most of the shop keepers and most of the kids from my class (other boys anyway) would call for each other or have earning meal at each others house, in the town i grew up in, there were arguments, but adults looked out for kids, as they knew your mum or used to work with your dad. It was a town of 50. 000 in North England. If you were bored there were at least five or six people you could call on to hang out with.
When i got older and didn't have many friends I had pen pals from music magazines, and some from other countries,sometimes i would answer ads and for a brief period i used a phone chatline.
Being old fashioned i was reluctant to get a mobile phone and only got one finally in 2006 out of necessity. I first saw the internet in 1999 aged 28, and was amazed by emails I couldn't believe my letter was instantly available. I would just use the internet for emails, reading the paper ( and of course porn).
However from mid 2007, this was when i really got into the internet, I discovered YouTube and it was amazing to me, At first I was loving being able to see all these interviews of my favorite bands, all the pop songs i wanted, it was quite amazing. The following year i was diagnosed with AS and my only source of information was You Tube Vloggers and the net, so i was grateful for that, Later a friend started talking to me about conspiracy theories. And i spent a lot of time reasearching different subjects and it was the biggest education ever,as I had always felt things were not right in society. But I that isn't what this thread is about.
I heard about Facebook , so at the end of 2008 i made an account, soon after an old friend got in touch who id fallen out with 12 years previously, as i was iscolated, i forgave and forgot, but without going into detail, this person continued to cause more trouble for me on and off for the next 5 years. Now I've finally got rid of him. Another old friend that id lost touch with to was acting strangely and making me feel uncomfortable and yet another who I shared a flat with when at university got in touch but didn't say anything!!!! As it made me feel uncomfortable, i closed the account after just 3 weeks as i found myself feeling anxious about it and thinking about it when i was going about my everyday
business.
Then just this year out of sheer boredom and isolation I decided to open a new FB account. I had fond memories of my school time i mentioned previously, and was interested to see how everyone had aged.however six people didn't accept my friend invite, two family members upset me on it and two other girls who I knew during my collage days got in touch , but one didn't reply much and the other was annoying me with her inane drivel. I went on a small holiday and posted some pictures of what i was doing, and I got a few jealous quips from her. There was a girl from school who i wasn't friends with back then but knew me, i enjoyed talking too as she knew everyone i knew but she seems to be on FB all the time and even posted a picture of the back of her head on it. Noone had much to say really, and I found myself feeling uncomfortable again. I spoke to another old friend from school who had moved to New Zealand, but he seemed to be bragging all the time and i felt like he was in competition with me. Plus I saw some estranged family members on there and another family member got upset and jealous that i even mentioned these other people...During this second episode i once again began to feel very uncomfortable with it and found myself feeling depressed after spending too much time on it, so i decided to close it yet again. Also it was quite difficult to close...... I gave my email address to 3 girls i knew, but just 2 emailed then that fizzled away. Soon after i felt a lot better again .
Also ive notice a few people I've got friendly with over the last 5 years have asked me "Are you on Facebook?" no i said,, but we can text... I met a girl in a bar in manchester with her boyfriend 3 years ago who asked me this question, we all seemed to get along and exchanged phone numbers, we never met face to face again and whenever i called her there was no answer but she would text back soon after, whenever she called me she was drunk, and quite intense, i got to know her quite well just by text, she asked me repeatedly if i was on Facebook . In the end we had a silly disagreement after aranging to meet in Manchester over the christmas holidays, and i received aloud of abuse by text. I found the whole experience stupid and ridiculous .
I don't know if I'm just old fashioned but i prefer chatting face to face, you can pick up more the energy of a person face to face, but when i go outside all i see is people glued to their phones or music, it seemed modern technology has made our socializing even worse. Don't get me wrong I'm grateful for online banking, booking things and information, but I'm beginning to think i should limit my internet use as its making me depressed.
Do you prefer to communicate with social media? and texting? Because i hate texting but i only do it because its cheaper. Also my experience on Facebook has destroyed my memories or a happy period in my life. I think many people say and behave online diffrently than they would face to face. Tell me what do you think? I miss the old days.
. What do you think? If your older like me you will see the difference in life. Do you think modern communication methods are good or annoying? Do you use Facebook? if so do you enjoy it. Can you imagine living without all this?
Below is a well known video about what I'm talking about, plus a recent article from the Daily Mail about an elderly woman who felt depressed living in the modern age of communication.
Retired teacher, 89, ends her life at Swiss euthanasia clinic | Mail Online
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