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helplesslydepressed

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Hi, i'm new here... wish i wasn't here tbh. Idk how some people can think having this disorder is "neurodiverse" i legit hate my life.

Anyways, i was just wondering if any1 here has a similar problem to me, which is, my medicine completely kills my sex drive and everything involved with it. I have no ability to have sex.

I can't go off my medicine however because i end up getting extremely upset and suicidal 24/7, have stress so bad that my sides hurt really bad, have constant insomnia, AND i start pulling out my hair (im serious).

Suffice to say i need my medicine, which happens to be lexapro at 20mg because nothing else works. Problem is my medicine is the crux of part of my unhappiness because it is the reason i can't be sexual.

I'm so depressed it is beyond comprehension even on my medicine and this side effect makes me want to give up tbh. I feel like im going to be alone forever and i also have social anxiety which just makes my life all the more fun.

I'm just wondering if any1 else suffers from the same thing as me and is there any help or are we just screwed?
 
All the antidepressants I’ve taken kills my libido. It is very very common. If you tell your doctor you can get a script for Viagra. There is no reason a young man shouldn’t be given a chance for a satisfying sex life.
 
There are other options that aren't as bad with the sexual dysfunction. You will be okay. I've been through everything you described and I'm in the prime of my life right now. Try a different medication with less side effects or add one on.
 
What did your doctor say when you told him this?

I wish mine killed my sex drive! It's just a distraction when there's no plan to follow through. :rolleyes:
 
I'm trying to get TMS therapy.
It has no side effects and is safe compared to medicine.
This is a wonderful replacement for meds and is only given to those who have problems with anitdepressants.
Trying to get find a place that takes my insurance is the problem.
A lot of places that have the therapy will not take medicare.
 
It's very common for SSRIs to affect sex drive. I experienced this first hand. But I haven't been on SSRIs for over 3 years now, I've been on a mood stabiliser instead which I find works better for me.

But there might be stuff that could help you in that particular area of trouble you're experiencing. There's a whole market devoted to helping people out there.
 
If you are suffering from stress and anxiety as much as you have described, that alone is enough to kill or disrupt your libido. Add to that all the medication and it’s no surprise you aren’t able to be sexual!

This is surprisingly common though so don’t worry about that. You should speak to your prescriber about this as viagra may be an option. I certainly found it quite miraculous in that department. There may be issues around combining it with other medications I don’t know but there may be alternatives to consider. Definitely speak to your doctor about this, they’ve heard it all before and won’t raise an eyebrow. If it’s causing you extra distress and anxiety you need a solution as a young healthy man there is unlikely to be many reasons why this difficulty can’t be resolved.
 
I feel your pain. I was previously on SSRI’s which killed my sex drive. Now I’m on antipsychotics which kill my sex drive and make me gain weight very rapidly.

If it was just my libido I could cope, but I’m no longer able to enjoy sex either. I’d rather do the dishes than do my boyfriend, at this point. It has quite the negative impact on my relationship. The constant rejection hurts my boyfriend’s feelings, even though he knows it’s not personal. And it’s making me feel defective and miserable too.
 
Starfire said:
If you are suffering from stress and anxiety as much as you have described, that alone is enough to kill or disrupt your libido. Add to that all the medication and it’s no surprise you aren’t able to be sexual!

This is surprisingly common though so don’t worry about that. You should speak to your prescriber about this as viagra may be an option. I certainly found it quite miraculous in that department. There may be issues around combining it with other medications I don’t know but there may be alternatives to consider. Definitely speak to your doctor about this, they’ve heard it all before and won’t raise an eyebrow. If it’s causing you extra distress and anxiety you need a solution as a young healthy man there is unlikely to be many reasons why this difficulty can’t be resolved.
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Whenever i do go off lexapro my libido is actually fine so i know it is the medicine. I have mentioned it over and over to different people i have went to throughout the years and tried lots of different medicines, nothing seems to help me as much as lexapro. It's annoyingly frustrating so say the least. Isn't Viagra expensive? I'm tight on money, unfortunately. I have a lot of trouble holding down jobs.
 
Bolletje said:
I feel your pain. I was previously on SSRI’s which killed my sex drive. Now I’m on antipsychotics which kill my sex drive and make me gain weight very rapidly.

If it was just my libido I could cope, but I’m no longer able to enjoy sex either. I’d rather do the dishes than do my boyfriend, at this point. It has quite the negative impact on my relationship. The constant rejection hurts my boyfriend’s feelings, even though he knows it’s not personal. And it’s making me feel defective and miserable too.
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THIS (except girlfriend). I couldn't make it work with the last girl i was seeing because of this issue and every1 seems to make it seem like there is a bunch of solutions but i haven't found any yet. I'm not saying i made this thread purely to moan "woe is me", but in a way i kinda did because i actually have tried pretty hard to solve this problem and yet here i am. It's so awful, i know some people might think it sounds vain but i promise it isn't, sex is really important whether i want it to be or not, and i actually love the idea lol but it just isn't physically possible for me. I feel like a eunuch. Sorry to hear about the weight gain, i had concerns about that when i tried out antipsychotics (i like to call them mood stabilizers tho since im not actually psychotic, tho i have been known to do extremely dangerous stuff sometimes), but they made me more irritable ironically. Idk what is wrong with my brain tbh.
 
Southern Discomfort said:
It's very common for SSRIs to affect sex drive. I experienced this first hand. But I haven't been on SSRIs for over 3 years now, I've been on a mood stabiliser instead which I find works better for me.

But there might be stuff that could help you in that particular area of trouble you're experiencing. There's a whole market devoted to helping people out there.
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What do you mean? My problems are from SSRIs not natural in nature so i never thought any of it would help. What are you taking btw?
 
helplesslydepressed said:
Whenever i do go off lexapro my libido is actually fine so i know it is the medicine. I have mentioned it over and over to different people i have went to throughout the years and tried lots of different medicines, nothing seems to help me as much as lexapro. It's annoyingly frustrating so say the least. Isn't Viagra expensive? I'm tight on money, unfortunately. I have a lot of trouble holding down jobs.
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Well that’s actually quite helpful for you that you can narrow it down to one medication rather than having to go through a process of elimination which might take quite some time and be difficult on you.

I don’t know which country you’re in but in the UK you might well qualify for the generic brand which I have had. From what I understand the patent has run out for Viagra, so what you can get a prescription for or buy over the counter is Sildenafil which is exactly the same thing and much cheaper. As for cost on prescription if you pay, it’s £8.50ish I believe for four 50mg tablets of Sildenafil. Many find 25mg is enough so 8 goes for around 50p a go. Viagra is more expensive over the counter at around £20 for 4 which is why NHS won’t prescribe but you can buy over the counter as some people prefer trade names than paying significantly less for exactly the same thing.
 
What happens if you lower the dose? As far as sex - in today's world that's probably a good thing.
Welcome to the forum. I hope you can come to terms with yourself in your interactions here.
 
helplesslydepressed said:
Hi, i'm new here... wish i wasn't here tbh. Idk how some people can think having this disorder is "neurodiverse" i legit hate my life.

Anyways, i was just wondering if any1 here has a similar problem to me, which is, my medicine completely kills my sex drive and everything involved with it. I have no ability to have sex.

I can't go off my medicine however because i end up getting extremely upset and suicidal 24/7, have stress so bad that my sides hurt really bad, have constant insomnia, AND i start pulling out my hair (im serious).

Suffice to say i need my medicine, which happens to be lexapro at 20mg because nothing else works. Problem is my medicine is the crux of part of my unhappiness because it is the reason i can't be sexual.

I'm so depressed it is beyond comprehension even on my medicine and this side effect makes me want to give up tbh. I feel like im going to be alone forever and i also have social anxiety which just makes my life all the more fun.

I'm just wondering if any1 else suffers from the same thing as me and is there any help or are we just screwed?
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chocolate does it for me, I don't know how dramatic it would be for a man.I have to be careful with it because it's a stimulant so balance how much you have
 
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